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Old 12-20-2013, 01:47 AM
 
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Hello, my name is redbird and ....

Personally, I never cared for AA. But I believe it serves a purpose for a segment of society and if it works for them, then more power to them.

Most AA groups I have been to stress this isn't a religious program, it is a spiritual program. They try and stress they are NOT pushing god down your throat.

I enjoyed meeting a lot of people in AA and had quite a few sponsors that I had ultimate respect for, men and women who reclaimed their lives and lived a sober life. For them, it is a godsend.

I also know a lot of Native American men who don't attend AA and simply get clean and sober through their own ways. (traditional ways)

I simply don't care for some of the repetitive teachings. My perceptions were there were always alcoholics in bars who talk too much and now there are sober alcoholics who love to talk about themselves. Bottom line is there are some people who have suffered terribly from alcoholism and AA works for them. I am happy for them.

But just because I don't care for AA doesn't mean I think it is bad or wrong, it is a good thing for SOME people. The sad part is those who fail often go off the deep end. There are some people in society who simply CANNOT drink socially. Nor do they care to drink normally.

Personally, I liked NA better. Their meetings are more fun and laid back.

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Old 12-20-2013, 03:51 AM
 
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The problem with testimony... and the reasons we invest so much of our time, effort and creativity into studies and double blind methodologies.... is that testimony is two a penny. It is easy to get. Especially if you have something that is tried on enough people like AA is.

If you took 1 million alcoholics tomorrow and simply told them "Every time you feel the urge to drink, get a yellow piece of card with an orange dot in the centre.... and stare at the dot for 10 minutes while thinking of pokka dot reindeer doing the lambada in tu-tus" you would get a large amount of testimony that this method changed their life and cured their alcoholism. Probably somewhere between 5 and 10% of the people responding will swear blind and testify to their dying day that your "cure" helped them when nothing else would.

Testimony in other words is worthless, especially given how people go about obtaining it.


And the success rate of the orange-dot/yellow card/imagined reindeer 10-minute cure for alcoholism would likely double if you included some placebo effect-enhancing statistic that you invented, like "it has worked for 89% of all alcoholics in Glasgow" (I picked Glasgow rather than Dublin to spare your homeland any further association with alcoholism...as a borderline-alcoholic with some Irish descent myself (mother's side, as my surname might suggest) I hardly view such an association as a mark of shame, but).

Nice post overall, btw (unquoted parts included). Meta-analyses uber alles (although strictly speaking they incorporate all (to the extent that the data allows/is available), so "uber alles" would be elevating them over their typical competitors, anecdote collections/individual studies, that they should in theory incorporate)

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Old 12-20-2013, 05:56 AM
 
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Most AA groups I have been to stress this isn't a religious program, it is a spiritual program. They try and stress they are NOT pushing god down your throat.
This would certainly resonate with what June's seen and heard.
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Old 12-20-2013, 06:47 AM
 
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When AA is something that can be used for a reasonable period of time to get one's focus OFF of alcohol (or other addiction)I might consider it to be a successful program.
I think you will find that AA becomes, if at all successful, as a substitute but one that keeps the focus ON the substance, in "successful" cases, for years or for life. Instead of drinking being the most important thing, not drinking becomes the most important thing, rather than allowing a return to a life where simply the substance is no longer a big factor.

Those I know that were true physical alcoholics and just quit, lead ordinary lives but know they can no longer 'have just one' so don't.But it's not something they give much thought to anymore the same way people with a severe allergy don't think every day about what they can't have...they just don't.
Those that were 'just' drunks ( still called alcoholics) and quit actually can and do drink on a "normal" basis...meaning can have a wine with dinner or a couple of beers watching a game with their friends or don't have anything for days/weeks at a time.
Some long term AA people possibly weren't physical alcoholics but, as evidenced by their need to stay in the group 'forever' needed help with more than the substance.
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Old 12-20-2013, 10:56 AM
 
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Default Third person, first person, right brain, left brain, and on and on we go! :)

http://www.scientificamerican.com/ar...anonymous-work


The Effectiveness of the Twelve-Step Treatment


http://www.bettyfordcenter.org/treat...ccess-rate.php

(Refer to response #17. It's written specifically for you, Nozz!) J/K!


http://news.nationalgeographic.com/n...rapy-dopamine/

(Refer to "Left Brain, Right Brain" and "Helping Heals.")



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An easy mistake I guess, compounded somewhat perhaps by this Charlie Sheen like oddity you have of referring to yourself in the third person which makes parsing the meaning and intention of such lines that little bit harder.
Point taken. For the sake of clarity, and for those who find the "third person posts" annoying, this one is an "in the first-person" written post. In all honesty, I truly have no idea why I adapted the "third person" writing style, other than to say that I think I initially found it amusing, and over time, it simply became a "force of habit." It's just "June." --Besides, it's a message board. Given that factor, truly, what do I care if I ended up adapting the quirky third person writing style that I have? I don't. Admittedly, members either love it or hate it, (and thanks to all those who over the years have actually repped me for it, for goodness sake, saying they love it, which just cracks "June" up! LOL!) We're all posting under the auspices of anonymity (except in those cases where true friendships have been formed) so in short, for those who hate it, my apologies for annoying (Lord knows I don't intend to!) but at the end of the day, all I can say is that it's the contents of any given post that count. If the third person detracts from, or impedes in getting the contents of a post across, then that's "June's bad." Admittedly. But like I said, it's a message board for goodness sake, and everyone reads a whole lot of what they find "way out there" on a daily basis, so if ya want, just chalk the third person up to being just more of the same.

So with that out of the way, first off, I'll respond to your point stated here, Nozz:

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The phrase "agree to disagree" to me has always sat badly as if it just means "Lets give up on discourse because it is not going the way I personally want it to". I never agree to disagree, rather I endevour to strive towards the ideal of mutual consensus.
While in theory the concept of "striving towards the ideal of mutual consensus" is a nice one, the reality is that there are situations in this world where individuals are simply not going to achieve "mutual consensus" no matter how long or hard they try. It's just the way it is, as individual's opinions and beliefs are integral entities to them, and highly defended by them, as a result. I'll "agree to disagree" solely due to the fact that I know all too well (as can anyone else just by reading the debates on the various threads on this message board) that mutual consensus is not always achievable, yet nonetheless will still respect another person irrespective of how adamantly we may disagree. People are entitled to what they believe to be true for them; there opinions matter and count, so at the end of the day, "agreeing to disagree" is not perceived on my part as "Let's give up on a discourse because it is not going the way I personally want it to", but rather, because I don't have a problem with those who don't see things the same ways as I do. There's no overly narcissistic ego to be found in my emotional constitution, so I'm fine with agreeing to disagree, if for no other reason (as I've already mentioned) out of respect for the other's opinions, and a means of "keeping the peace." Please note: This paragraph should NOT be interpreted in any remote way as my accusing you of having an overly narcissistic ego. Rather, I have posted it by way of stating where I am coming from, and why. (Just...wanted....to....be....clear....on....that. ...one!)

With that being said, in a state of sheer frustration and angst, I wish to respond to what you said about methodology and statistics in proving one's claim. I say that it is with "sheer frustration and angst" because no sooner did I write out a nicely constructed paragraph in response, than my computer decided to somehow delete it. (You ain't sending June self-sabotaging vibes across the Pond, are you, Nozz?) But in trying to go back and reconstruct what I wrote, I can only say that I both agree and disagree with you when it comes to statistics and the methodologies by which they are garnered in accessing the efficacy of the AA model of recovery. As someone who works in the field of being a professional mathematician once said to me: "Data and statistics can be readily manipulated such that one can easily render statistics to support whatever stance one wishes to support or endorse in any subject study." --I don't know that I necessarily agree or adhere to that claim, especially as regards the issue of efficacy as it pertains to AA in general, and the Twelve Steps, in particular. Lord knows I've been exposed to more than enough double blind studies in my all too lengthy years of academia (seriously, it was torture at times!) so my feeling is both a "yes" to statistical analyses and renderings, along with a "no" as regards the utilization of such methodologies in determining the efficacy and success ratings of any Twelve Step based program.

I think this comes down to how one defines "success rate" as regards any individual and the utilization of the Twelve Steps that AA endorses. Thus, my quoting your post, below:


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Indeed you are right but this is recognized as probably the single biggest issue with evaluating the actual efficacy of the AA program. Basically it is a correlation-causation error.

The people most driven to attend the meetings long term... are likely the people most driven to succeed and better themselves.... therefore the most likely to do so.

Therefore while long term AA attendance _correlates_ strongly with long term sobriety... there is no clear cut reason to allocate that success to AA or anything to do with AA per se.

This is a confounding factor that is something we can deal with using studies that engage with the epidemiological methodologies that will account for it and mitigate it. Alas the number of studies that ACTUALLY do so are thin on the ground. Especially studies sanctioned or commissioned by AA themselves as they clearly recognise that the above makes their figures look good.

Those studies of that type that do exist however do not portray the success rates of AA in a good light at all at all.
I maybe mis-reading or misunderstanding what you are saying above, but it seems to me that your third and fourth paragraphs are contradicting themselves. (???) I absolutely agree with your statement that "The people most driven to attend the meetings long term... are likely the people most driven to succeed and better themselves.... therefore the most likely to do so." but you then turn around and claim that "there is no clear cut reason to allocate that success to AA or anything to do with AA per se." Nozz, if you actually speak to individuals who have been in long term recovery, and listen to what they have to say as regards what working the Twelve Steps of AA enabled them to attain or achieve, there exists a very clear correlation between the efficacy of those Twelve Steps, and a given individual's recovery in having turned their lives around due to having done so. At the very least, the Twelve Steps provide a treatment modality by which an individual is both introspectively driven to assess, and thereby eradicate their own denial as regards their substance abuse (which is the key component of any substance abuser's addiction, and what keeps them drinking or drugging) along with the cognitive-behavioral restructuring that takes place which enables an individual to maintain a state of sobriety. Cognitive restructuring takes place over time within the person's brain; new nuero-pathways are formed. In short, sobriety can be achieved and maintained via the utilization of working the Twelve Steps of recovery.

So for those who do, the "success rate" index of the Twelve Steps is exceedingly high. --But the individual has to do the work of those Twelve Steps.

From what I have found, the literature tends to be very diverse as regards the overall "success rate" of the Twelve Steps. If one takes a purely statistically-based standpoint, then there is no lack of supporting evidence in the literature to support the notion of the Twelve Steps, and AA in general having little efficacy, or perhaps at best, moderate success rates. But this is addiction that we're talking about here. The statistics and/or realities behind what would account for the abysmal "success rates" of AA come as no surprise, as it's an extremely tall order when it comes to battling one's own brain's bio-chemistry, along with the external environmental factors that have been set in place in a person's life throughout the course of their growing up. (Which only serve to reinforce an addiction that much more, and cannot be separated from the overall dynamics which go into what comprises "addiction.") To be perfectly honest, as a clinician, I tend to not only expect a high relapse rate or index in patients upon initially trying to obtain sobriety, and as any well trained and well seasoned psychotherapist who has a specialization in substance abuse will tell you, "relapse" is actually a component OF "recovery," believe it or not! (Admittedly, that last point comes across as more than just an obscure one, but I've got to tell you, it's true!)

At the end of the day, one can't negate the role that self-volition plays in any person's ability to achieve and maintain long term sobriety, and true recovery. The concepts of "sobriety" and "recovery" are not defined by mere abstinence from a substance alone. A state of sobriety, and what constitutes true recovery is based in the cognitive-behavioral changes that take place in an individual, that are sustained over time, such that a person's life is transformed from that of being held hostage (if you will) by either alcohol or a drug, to being able to live a productive, self-gratifying life that is indicative of sound mental health, and is backed up by, supported by that. One of the individuals I worked with at one time had lost everything in his life due to his being a poly-substance abuser. He ended up homeless, living under a tree for God-only-knows how many years, until his body began to give out from under him, at which point he ended up admitting himself into de-tox (as by that point de-tox was a medical necessity) and from there, proceeded to get himself into AA, worked the Twelve Steps, and at the point that we terminated therapy together, he was gainfully employed in a well paying job, was in the process of attempting to reunite with his children, and had met a woman who was fully supportive of him and whom he hoped to marry. For him, his "succes" was solely attributable to his having finally gotten into AA, and working the Twelve Steps. And he was by no means a religiously-oriented individual, so the "god factor" in no way impeded his ability to attain recovery.

I don't know what more I can say in response.

In order to bring this post (and thread) back around to the topic of "AA selling religion" I will once again say that I feel that is totally attributed to the cultural mindsets of the originators of AA. They were both Christians, living in a Judeo-Christian culture, and felt that there was much merit in the existence of a spiritual component in the process of recovery through the Twelve Steps. And although I have to go back and recheck the Twelves Steps, if I'm not mistaken, it specifically states (as regards the "Higher Power" notion) something to the effect of "as we understand him." (Please don't hold me as "etching this in stone" as I didn't reread the Twelve Steps prior to responding to your post, but will after posting it.) --But I do know that no one is beaten over the head with a bible in the halls of AA, and that "Higher Power" is left to the individual's conceptualization of whatever he or she deems fit as regarding it as. Or not. Again, there is no lack of atheists who are clean and sober today despite their flat-out refusal to adhering to the notion of a higher power. Do I readily admit that the "higher power" that the Twelve Steps are referring to is rooted in, and can clearly be gleaned to be that of a Judeo-Christian one? Yes. But it is not exclusive to the notion of a being a purely Judeo-Christian God. Talk to people who are in AA, who do not accept the notion of a Judeo-Christian god, and see what they have to tell you! Some believe in one, some don't, some AA/NA meetings are very religiously-oriented in their emphasis on the necessity of a Higher Power, but there's no lack of meetings (at least here in Massachusetts) where the "higher power" concept is not found being crammed down people's throats. No one is forced to believe in, or adhere to the notion of a "higher power" being a strictly Judeo-Christian deity. I have no doubt that the culture of AA has changed over time just as the overall culture as a whole has, such that the "higher power" notion has become that much more of an eclectic one. It may not have started out that way initially, but I can tell you that if you walk into an AA meeting here, today, the interpretation of a higher power is left to the individual in terms of how it is conceptualized. Or not.

So, that's about it. I don't know what more I can say, other than the fact that if a person truly wants it, true sobriety and recovery can be had, and is to found within the halls of AA. If nothing else, I can't say otherwise, as I've worked in this field for far too long to either negate or dismiss the efficacy of AA and the Twelve Steps as I've seen how it has worked for multitudes of individuals. Who, in my personal and professional opinion, are the lucky ones. Because I'll also be the first to admit that it isn't easy, in fact it can be as difficult as hell, and all too sadly, there are those individuals for whom AA has little or nothing to offer, and who are still leading lives that they otherwise wish they were not.

So in the end, June agrees with some of your points, disagrees with others, but like I said at the start of this post, not everyone is going to be able to reach a final position of mutual consensus, which is okay. --Because when you think about it, how much less fun and enjoyment would there have been for either of us in debating and bantering this topic back and forth? Yes?

--As a pure act of goodwill, I will try to make it a point of raising a glass, and taking a sip of Chimay in your honor over the holidays, Nozz. (Although I've got to say, I've truly long since lost all taste in the stuff! Blech! But the sentiment will still be nonetheless genuine!)

Thus ends June's "first person post" and thereby re-commences her resuming her quirky, overly-annoying to some third person posting. With sincere apologies to those who she either offends or annoys. (But seriously, people, it's a message board! If ya want, just write June off as being a PSYCHOtherapist. That's fine with her. It's all in the nature of light-hearted fun!)

P.S. In response to your saying:


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I like to remain vague about my personal life and qualifications. Not least because my points should stand alone, and not be bolstered by who or what I claim to be.

However I will briefly say that I am heavily schooled and studied in epidemiology methodologies, specifically in areas related not to disease but the treatment of conditions, ailments, and complaints in the areas of human psychology, psychotherapy, and psychiatry. I am also heavily studied in Human Neuroscience. Basically for a long time every aspect of the human mind, physically, chemically and mentally, has been of great interest to me and I study if from all angles internally and externally and how we treat it, medically and through therapy, when things go wrong with it physically and mentally and emotionally.
I'm with you on your first sentence. But if a note needs to be made in terms of my "qualifications" it can be found referenced to within at least 2 of the links at the top of this post, in indicating where boatloads of my academic life was spent in Advanced Clinical Training. And yes, I'm the first to admit that I hate the snooty aspect of it, (and hence, am loathe to disclose it!) but have to say, it provided one hell of a fine education!

P.S. PLEASE tell me that the links at the top of this post can be opened! In proof-reading this post, they initially would upon clicking on them, but the second time around, no-go! If such is the case, we all know where they can be found. (We're really not allowed to refer CD members to "you know where" so I'll let it suffice at that!)
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Old 12-20-2013, 10:58 AM
 
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....And my sincere, humble apologies to all for the ungodly length of that last post! Yikes!

Thank God June doesn't post often!
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Old 12-20-2013, 12:41 PM
 
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My two cents
Relying on my many many years and my PHD from "School of Hard Knocks" my humble qualified opinion is..

At the end of the day and all the debating, linking to "you know where", etc it is solely up to the individual whether or not AA or any other form of therapy a person attends will be successful or not.

No matter if there is a religious theme or not"kicking the addiction" can only be accomplished if an individual really desires it.

Cheers from all my Irish relatives and friends who enjoy the draft and only a couple alcoholics among them who choose to keep on keepin on.

{rip Uncle Duncle and cousin Colleen]
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Old 12-20-2013, 12:57 PM
 
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No matter if there is a religious theme or not"kicking the addiction" can only be accomplished if an individual really desires it.
That's the bottom line. AA doesn't dictate what your "higher power" consists of.

My larger concern about AA is that in practice they seem more interested in breaking you and telling you what a horrible person you are and that approach just isn't going to work for many. It's true that many alcoholics are in denial and think they know best and don't take responsibility for their drinking and its effect on others and they need to be called on their BS, taken down a few pegs, etc. But there are others, particularly those who come from shaming / blaming family dynamics, for whom drinking is largely DRIVEN by shame and a lack of self-worth, and AA plays right into that, if not in principle then in practice. Some people NEED to "tough love", some need a gentler approach. AA is too rigid IMO and doesn't really allow for that. Probably one's mileage will vary in different actual support groups and with different actual sponsors, but there is nothing in the AA system that really supports that much nuance.
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Old 12-20-2013, 01:37 PM
 
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... Probably one's mileage will vary in different actual support groups and with different actual sponsors, but there is nothing in the AA system that really supports that much nuance.
My experience in AA says that you have hit the nail on the head with the first part of your statement. It certain reflects what I experienced and what I have observed.

As for the "not much nuance," I found there was, though, again, I am talking Manhattan, NYC groups only. I found that the central pillar of AA, the "Big Book" was interpreted with a great deal of latitude, and there was (and presumably, is) a great amount of supporting literature that is written with a different tone.

I can remember when the speaker at one meeting said, "To be honest, I find the Big Book to be the Big Bore, it puts me to sleep, the meetings keep me sober." This certainly elicited some gasps, along with laughs, but I think it struck very close to the truth for many members.

Many people did not take what I might call a fundamentalist approach to the Big Book. I found the articulation of the traditional twelve steps to be more effectively presented elsewhere, in other AA publications or Hazelden literature.
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Old 12-20-2013, 02:17 PM
 
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Probably one's mileage will vary in different actual support groups and with different actual sponsors, but there is nothing in the AA system that really supports that much nuance.
That's because it's similar to a cult or religion. There's not much room for deviation from the core doctrine. You couldn't arrive at your first AA meeting and say,

"I'm TheSoundOfMuzak and I don't think of myself as an 'alcoholic.'

For the past year I've been drinking in a way that had an increasingly negative impact on my life. I believe this is due to underlying psychological issues that need fixed. My plan is to stay sober at least until I get back my job and fix the other aspects of my life that have fallen apart. Then I'll decide what my relationship with alcohol is going to be in the future.

I believe that it all comes down to what I want to do. If I really want to drink moderately, I can. The reason I used to get blacked-out drunk is because that's what I wanted to do. I want to keep myself psychologically and physically healthy enough that getting drunk doesn't sound the least bit appealing to me. I'm going to try and hit the gym every morning, stay busy and take up a new hobby or two. I think some people here offer some good advice to take home, so I'll continue to attend these meetings as long as I feel I'm getting something out of them
."

Nope. That wouldn't fly. You have to subscribe to AA's black-and-white thinking.
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