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One thing for sure, some Seniors that seem to be "boring" actually have health issues that prevent them from being too active. I learned that very fast when I worked for a Senior Healthcare company. Then there are those that just want to live a very quiet, seemingly "unfriendly" lifestyle for whatever reasons. Some simply don't want to socialize at all.
My wife's brother (60) is just that way nowadays. He will come right out and say "I do live a boring lifestyle and that's fine with me". He has also told us "I don't want the responsibility it can take to make friends."
One thing for sure, some Seniors that seem to be "boring" actually have health issues that prevent them from being too active. I learned that very fast when I worked for a Senior Healthcare company. Then there are those that just want to live a very quiet, seemingly "unfriendly" lifestyle for whatever reasons. Some simply don't want to socialize at all.
My wife's brother (60) is just that way nowadays. He will come right out and say "I do live a boring lifestyle and that's fine with me". He has also told us "I don't want the responsibility it can take to make friends."
That is an interesting statement about the responsibility but it is true! One of my friends today expressed that he doesn't get close to anyone because everyone that he has, has died. Poor guy is depressed often and any overatures towards him for friendship/closeness, he pushes away. We are indeed, a product of our experiences.
Some people get burned out during their work careers and kinda stay that way. They "lose their song.." They get cynical, maybe even bitter. If you take the time to draw them out, you might be surprised what is in there.
Not only due to "job burn out", but also to bad relationships/marriages and residential location. Two single (divorced) ladies that wife and I know (talk to) aren't cynical or bitter, they just don't want a man/relationship in their life right now at all. I should say the one lady doesn't like living here in Jacksonville at all......and has told me that. She'd rather be living in the Daytona Beach area where her daughter lives, but her job keeps her here. She told me that that may change when her new apt. lease comes up in a few months.
For many folks young and old, their job, income, residency, family situation, past/present relationships/marriages will dictate just how friendly or unfriendly they are. Some just don't like socializing at all. And, to try and "draw them out" can be nearly impossible to impossible!
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Originally Posted by Bideshi
Some people get burned out during their work careers and kinda stay that way. They "lose their song.." They get cynical, maybe even bitter. If you take the time to draw them out, you might be surprised what is in there.
I like the comments, "gender, proximity, general interests." One of my Nieces complained to me that all the guys she was meeting drank too much, were alcoholics, sloppy, etc., etc. She was going out 3-4 nights a week to local bars and she'd see the same guys every time. I asked her who she thought she'd be meeting who hung-out in bars most nights, and drank too much? I suggested she change her venue. Participate in her church groups. What about the charitable groups she wanted to support? Etc. Thought she likes to drink she didn't want an alcoholic or heavy drinker as the father of her children, or as a husband.
Sounds like she needs a part time gig at the bar, rather than spending money on booze she could make a few extra bucks.
Then she would have friends at the bar who probably weren't drunk but she'd also have an opportunity to see guys who weren't there to get drunk but just had no where else to go. Maybe there to meet a girl like her, just not there long enough to get attention. Without the ruse of a chance encounter, the experience becomes something different.
I can identify with your problem. All my fun friends have died (no kidding) and my interests and inclinations are not the norm. Add to that, being a single female and alas, it is indeed, impossible to find new friends. I'm down to 3 very elderly friends and when they are gone. . . . I wonder why so many older people are SO BORING!!!!
You are so RIGHT! Why are people in their late 60's and older so boring? They won't drive at night, or they are only interested in family. Or they simply want to sit around and take naps. Or they have medical issues that prohibit a lot of activities (of course, they can't help that!). Or maybe they are depressed?
We find that if we like a couple, we try to get them to go somewhere or do something fun for all of us. If they are likely to be a "fun" couple, they are probably interested. Some don't even want to go out to dinner.
Another issue we find is that some people are extremely conservative politically. That's OK, as long as they don't want to talk about it all the time, which a lot of older people seem to want to do. They really enjoy complaining--again, BORING!
You are so RIGHT! Why are people in their late 60's and older so boring? They won't drive at night, or they are only interested in family. Or they simply want to sit around and take naps. Or they have medical issues that prohibit a lot of activities (of course, they can't help that!). Or maybe they are depressed?
We find that if we like a couple, we try to get them to go somewhere or do something fun for all of us. If they are likely to be a "fun" couple, they are probably interested. Some don't even want to go out to dinner.
Another issue we find is that some people are extremely conservative politically. That's OK, as long as they don't want to talk about it all the time, which a lot of older people seem to want to do. They really enjoy complaining--again, BORING!
I am probably one of those people that you would find "boring". I don't match any of the things you mentioned that, supposedly, MAKE a person boring but there's not much that interests me outside of home. I work and it's a demanding...physically and mentally...job so when I get home I don't want to do anything. I generally have split days off so it takes that ONE day to get my energy back up to go 'do it again'. Somehow I manage to stay busy at home, never get bored and don't feel any great need to get out and socialize.
I may be boring but, dang, I like me! lol I am perfectly content with my life and if others find me boring I'd say that's THEIR problem, not MINE!
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Boring Older People
