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I've been pretty happy and pretty spoiled all my life, and I've done pretty much what I wanted to do. The worst thing--though inevitable--was losing my mom and dad, then the loss of pets, and recently, a diagnosis of cancer which apparently (luckily for me) is resolved and over with (at least I hope so).
I've had business and personal setbacks like everyone else has, but nothing terribly tragic. I was stalked online for two years by some horrible person, and some person or persons falsified headers on USENET (don't go there -- it's a zoo), and that was pretty painful. The thousand or so emails, purportedly from me (impossible -- I was in Japan at the time), are pretty horrific, and if someone googles my name, they still come up. Which I suppose was the point. But I'm not the first person this has happened to.
I have MS but it's been in remission for a long time; I have what is described in my CT scan as a "tiny" hernia, I have arthritis (type to be determined when I get the result of last week's labs & xrays), but nothing that abnormal for a women in her early 60's. My blood pressure and a host of other tests are normal, which is great. My good health, in general, I attribute to a vegan diet, and a happy working life as a musician, teacher and entrepreneur.
I have a book for sale on Amazon and another one coming soon, and when sales are slow I feel sorry for myself. But overall, life is (I am convinced) difficult for everyone and, as my mother said, "it's a good life if you don't weaken."
OP: things will always either get better, get worse, or stay the same, but you have to maintain your equilibrium. Best wishes to you; don't let the bastards get you down, as they say.
That is sad and a huge loss. I recall that following divorce after 25 years I discovered that I'd lost my capacity for joy. I firmly believed that was permanent and that I'd simply perservere from that point on while things seemed rather meaningless. I had no support as my children were being alienated from me by their mother and I chose to live like a hermit for a few years.
All I can offer is my experience in which the capacity for joy finally came flooding back so it was not a permanent loss; probably merely situational. But that didn't make it any easier to bear. I hope yours returns as well. We all deserve it.
I've been pretty happy and pretty spoiled all my life, and I've done pretty much what I wanted to do. The worst thing--though inevitable--was losing my mom and dad, then the loss of pets, and recently, a diagnosis of cancer which apparently (luckily for me) is resolved and over with (at least I hope so).
I've had business and personal setbacks like everyone else has, but nothing terribly tragic. I was stalked online for two years by some horrible person, and some person or persons falsified headers on USENET (don't go there -- it's a zoo), and that was pretty painful. The thousand or so emails, purportedly from me (impossible -- I was in Japan at the time), are pretty horrific, and if someone googles my name, they still come up. Which I suppose was the point. But I'm not the first person this has happened to.
I have MS but it's been in remission for a long time; I have what is described in my CT scan as a "tiny" hernia, I have arthritis (type to be determined when I get the result of last week's labs & xrays), but nothing that abnormal for a women in her early 60's. My blood pressure and a host of other tests are normal, which is great. My good health, in general, I attribute to a vegan diet, and a happy working life as a musician, teacher and entrepreneur.
I have a book for sale on Amazon and another one coming soon, and when sales are slow I feel sorry for myself. But overall, life is (I am convinced) difficult for everyone and, as my mother said, "it's a good life if you don't weaken."
OP: things will always either get better, get worse, or stay the same, but you have to maintain your equilibrium. Best wishes to you; don't let the bastards get you down, as they say.
Thank you - love both quotes: "Don't let the bastards get you down," and "It's a good life if you don't weaken." I LOVE that. I have weakened and I have to get strong again!
Well, I wasn't real thrilled when mother said that to me; she had been protected by my dad all her life and I had been out there (out of the home), earning a living and having a much harder time than she ever did. But right now, I'm transcribing the letters my dad wrote to her during WWII, and I'm thinking that I was mistaken in my youthful views about her.
When I was young, I was somewhat gifted. I made the mistake of 'letting the bastards get to me' and gave up the pursuit of my dreams. Dreams I had earned the right to dream that should have been within my reach. And I was never able to completely recover from my loss. And I'm still bitter and angry about it. If I got a do-over, it's the one thing I would change. Or at least I would have found another use for my talents instead of settling for mediocrity.
Anyone watch season 7 of House? I was Amber Tamblyn, but not as attractive. That season is hard for me to watch.
All in all, I've had a good life. But you asked...
I have had my share of tragedy. I still struggle with much worry and sadness about things that affect my life that I cannot control. I also tend to dwell on how things would have been different if this or that hadn't happened. I know this kind of thinking is a waste of time.
I force myself to count my blessings, which are many. By doing so, I focus on the good things and how lucky I am in many ways, and on the things I have to be thankful for. This really helps.
I used to dwell on the 'What would you change in your life, if you could?' question -- And, I certainly had a number of things in my early life that were about as far 'off the charts' as anyone could imagine. But, then, I've thought, 'Those things are as much a part of the fabric of who I am ... as are the good things; - and even if I could change the bad, I realize that it would change who I am now what the Lord is doing in my life.' In that context, I would say, "It's all good!"
Some of you know my husband and I are going through an awful time right now. In 30 days, it will be over and then I will share, however, it is how life can change in a minute.
I am reminded of others and how their lives can change - look at the family of James Holmes - how incredibly sad for them and how their orderly lives have changed just like that. I cannot even imagine.
I think of the woman in the city just north of me whose 2 daughters and husband (ex-husband) were lost in an avalanche in Canada. The daughters (19 and 21, I believe) had gone to visit their father for the summer. Now, she is alone. I cannot even imagine the pain.
I think of all our brave men and women who have gone overseas and have not come back alive. They gave so much. I can't even imagine.
Right now, I'm trying to take one day at a time. I do have support from my family and I thank God we are close (sibs & spouses, 12 nieces & nephews not to mention our own children plus extended family), from our church and small group, and from neighbors and friends and for all that, I am grateful.
So, I'm just taking it one day at a time. My mother used to tell me that there are others that are suffering way more (if I ever complained).
To all, hang in there! (just venting)
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