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I have to wonder that in the future, due to shortage of land, only those that have already purchased a lot will be allowed to be buried in a regular coffin. Think of the 100s of years this has been going on and the hugh population expansion we now have. My mom and I had this discussion once and in the end she requested to be cremated.
I believe the day will come when there won't be an option. We'll all be blowin in the wind.
My family has a burial plot outside of Seattle. Has been there since the 1890's. Lots of ancestors I never met are there.
I do NOT want to buried there or anywhere else.
I want to be cremated, and have my friends build a massive sandcastle at East Beach, here in Santa Barbara, and as the tide comes up, dump my ashes in and around the sandcastle and watch me to go back into my beloved Pacific Ocean one last time.
My family has a burial plot outside of Seattle. Has been there since the 1890's. Lots of ancestors I never met are there.
I do NOT want to buried there or anywhere else.
I want to be cremated, and have my friends build a massive sandcastle at East Beach, here in Santa Barbara, and as the tide comes up, dump my ashes in and around the sandcastle and watch me to go back into my beloved Pacific Ocean one last time.
Half the relatives live in one area of the country and half in another area. Unless people decide to die in the same place where their burial plot is, there is going to be travel involved.
I'm told the two funeral homes would work together if the deceased needed to be transported out of state.
Anyone had a family burial plot and decided to be buried near your non blood family verus being buried with blood relatives?
Since no one is likely to die in the city of burial plots if they live a few states away, has anyone made the choice to be buried elsewhere so not have the need for relatives to travel long distances?
How did your loved one decide whether to have open casket or closed with photos on the casket?
I had an uncle who passed away up in and he asked to be cremated because he did not want anyone walking by looking at him.
My step mom choose cremation for the same reason, she didn't want anyone walking on her. I had mixed feelings when she told us this: I smiled, but of course respected her reasoning and feelings.
As for me and my spouse, we are being cremated because of the cost mostly, plus so many cemetaries are over crowded. As for an open casket, regardless I have always thought it was a horrible way to remember those we have loved and lost; pictures are just down right scary in my opinion. I want to remember my loved ones when they were alive and I want my family and friends to remember me the same way...
We have not planned anything, but I have made it clear that I want to be cremated. I would rather be scattered than kept in a box, thank you. I scattered my mother's ashes up in the woods, on the river, beside her home which is now my summer home. I walk over there frequently and have a talk with her. If we still own the place when I croak, I'd like to be scattered there, or in the river itself. If not, scatter me out on the Sound in Dunedin.
Husband may lean towards a "green burial"--when I first met him he said he wanted to be wrapped in a cloth and buried in a shallow grave, no casket, no embalming, nothing. We haven't talked about it lately, he's touchier than me on this subject.
I actually think it's the survivor for whom it matters--husband can bury me in the woods if he likes, I'd probably prefer to cremate him, and scatter his ashes somewhere I can visit.
We have not planned anything, but I have made it clear that I want to be cremated. I would rather be scattered than kept in a box, thank you. I scattered my mother's ashes up in the woods, on the river, beside her home which is now my summer home. I walk over there frequently and have a talk with her. If we still own the place when I croak, I'd like to be scattered there, or in the river itself. If not, scatter me out on the Sound in Dunedin.
Husband may lean towards a "green burial"--when I first met him he said he wanted to be wrapped in a cloth and buried in a shallow grave, no casket, no embalming, nothing. We haven't talked about it lately, he's touchier than me on this subject.
I actually think it's the survivor for whom it matters--husband can bury me in the woods if he likes, I'd probably prefer to cremate him, and scatter his ashes somewhere I can visit.
I thought the green burial sounded nice, until I found that there are very few places where it's allowed, so you don't get much choice. It just never caught on.
Since the family cemetary, back in Minnesota, won't allow me to construct my unusual tombstone, with a bronze figure of myself, with a gun pointed at my head, along with a big smile on my face, with I did it! I did it! engraved on the tombstone, I'm going to be cremated instead!
I've recently been thinking about a couple of things that disturb me. The first is purely practical. Premature burial is real; plenty of people who supposedly have died haven't. Suppose someone woke up in the creamatorium just before the mortician turned on the burner. There's no embalming before a cremation. In my case, I have no relatives so the mortician might not bother to embalm me and I could wake up in the coffin.
There's a spiritual element as well. Suppose my spirit must live in a hole and can't leave. Suppose my spririt is stuck in the ashes.
I wish that my corpse could just be propped up against a tree or rock and decay on it's own. Then I'd know my spirit could be free. I want to go to Heaven but I do worry if I become a ghost or a trapped spirit for some length of time.
Does anyone else worry about these possibilities?
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