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I am going to retire in a month. Wife not working and for some reasons have no social security. Have enough money and mortgage is almost paid off. So money, invested wisely, is not exactly a worry.
What scares me to death is that I will have no value to offer to the world. I know I am much more intelligent and productive than my peers and others who are 15-20 years younger than me. But suddenly, all my experience and ability to achieve results is going to go waste. I look at my friends output and feel bad as to how come they are producing such bad results. I can almost certainly do better than most of them.
On the other hand, I am sick of taking any criticism from any of the bosses. Not merely that, I am emotionally exhausted as I have always put so much pressure on me to make my work be good. I have high BP, some obesity, bit of ADHD. Not working is certinly going to me stress free. I know I can read, spend time for music, movies, travel.
Still, fear of losing professional work does scare me. Has anyone else felt the same? If so, how did you over come this? Any advice?
There is no greater honor than to be of service to our fellow mankind. Now that "we" are retired, there is time, and opportunity to give back to society. Spend some time making the lives of others better and you will never feel worthless.
Take some time off, then visit www.VolunteerMatch.org
There is no greater honor than to be of service to our fellow mankind. Now that "we" are retired, there is time, and opportunity to give back to society. Spend some time making the lives of others better and you will never feel worthless.
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Spend even a little time on this forum and you will find your concerns arise very often. Some people truly do have a lot of difficulty with retired living. Others of us thrive. In my case I began retirement with lots of things I wanted to do, to see and to accomplish. My list just keeps growing.
The "results" I am trying to achieve are much different than when I worked. My career was in a highly technical field. I wanted to develop my non tech skills, my artistic and creative abilities. Retirement is the time to look at your abilities, your passions, your interests and to set new goals in life.
There is no greater honor than to be of service to our fellow mankind. Now that "we" are retired, there is time, and opportunity to give back to society. Spend some time making the lives of others better and you will never feel worthless.
Volunteermatch is a wonderful site. There are many ways to feel productive in this life. And if the one that's earned a living has caused health problems and so much stress (as has mine and OP's) then surely there's a better way to feel productive.
Volunteermatch is a wonderful site. There are many ways to feel productive in this life. And if the one that's earned a living has caused health problems and so much stress (as has mine and OP's) then surely there's a better way to feel productive.
Yes, just registered and applied for two assignments. Thanks a lot to you and Volosong.
I was in the military. A senior NCO. I remember I was in a grouchy mood one day and walked into a county government office. For a while there I was highly ticked off that they didn't stand up when I walked in! I quickly came to my senses and snapped out of that.
Might take you a while to let go and separate your prior work life from everyday life. Good luck.
I am going to retire in a month. Wife not working and for some reasons have no social security. Have enough money and mortgage is almost paid off. So money, invested wisely, is not exactly a worry.
What scares me to death is that I will have no value to offer to the world. I know I am much more intelligent and productive than my peers and others who are 15-20 years younger than me. But suddenly, all my experience and ability to achieve results is going to go waste. I look at my friends output and feel bad as to how come they are producing such bad results. I can almost certainly do better than most of them.
On the other hand, I am sick of taking any criticism from any of the bosses. Not merely that, I am emotionally exhausted as I have always put so much pressure on me to make my work be good. I have high BP, some obesity, bit of ADHD. Not working is certinly going to me stress free. I know I can read, spend time for music, movies, travel.
Still, fear of losing professional work does scare me. Has anyone else felt the same? If so, how did you over come this? Any advice?
Yes there is and can be the fear of losing your professional life. Yes there is if you want the adrenaline raising excitement of being redefined and reinvented in a life revolving around you and the wife and your joint experiences which are still to be defined. Now is the time to shift to finding the value of you, for you and your family. You may find it amazing what provides you great joy in life. As my wife said to me today before we headed out of town that people would laugh if they knew that one of our great joys earlier today was seeing 10-12 Yellow Finches on one feeder. They were all there because a squirrel was being a pain on the other side of the deck.
In fact our last 24 hours have been as we were discussing while walking along the shore line a dream and how lucky we were to be living it. It includes seeing a great production of Jesus Christ Super Star last night. Add in a great sea food dinner from Publix and what a Bada Bing 24 hours.
When we retired we had no idea what would play out. We had some hopes and questions and now almost ten years later we have answers and so will you if you welcome the adventure.
Yes there is and can be the fear of losing your professional life. Yes there is if you want the adrenaline raising excitement of being redefined and reinvented in a life revolving around you and the wife and your joint experiences which are still to be defined. Now is the time to shift to finding the value of you, for you and your family. You may find it amazing what provides you great joy in life. As my wife said to me today before we headed out of town that people would laugh if they knew that one of our great joys earlier today was seeing 10-12 Yellow Finches on one feeder. They were all there because a squirrel was being a pain on the other side of the deck.
In fact our last 24 hours have been as we were discussing while walking along the shore line a dream and how lucky we were to be living it. It includes seeing a great production of Jesus Christ Super Star last night. Add in a great sea food dinner from Publix and what a Bada Bing 24 hours.
When we retired we had no idea what would play out. We had some hopes and questions and now almost ten years later we have answers and so will you if you welcome the adventure.
Thank you for the encouragement.
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