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My parents were 40 and 47 when I came along, and they lived into their 80's. At this point I can say confidently that I seem to have turned out fine, but I don't really recommend going much older, parent-wise. It sucked to lose them both in my early 40's. I envy my age-mates, who still have parents around to visit and talk to.
Also I wonder if adoption agencies look kindly on 70-year-old applicants. You might not be able to get a baby, only a much older child.
Op, I understand how you feel. I'm 69 and I love children. My youngest grandchild just graduated from high school. Fortunately, I still have a child who might have some babies.
I think what you are saying is that you have love to give to children. So do I. I read to kindergarteners during the school year, and I tutor a second grader. There are organizations which coordinate these things.
Look for ways to feed your love in your community. Perhaps you could even take in foster children, if your wife is open to it.
My wife had a baby when I was 62 and I have a friend who had his first child at 72. I highly recommend it. Although, it can be risky without a young wife and significant assets.
I agree with those who said to volunteer, much safer all around that way. At 70, you really don't know what's around the corner for you healthwise.
To those who suggested "get a dog": I had a pug that we adopted when she was 2 years old. (Pugs are not known for longevity). She lived to be 18 years old, a wonderful part of our lives, and she grew up with our kids. But adopting at 70, if a dog lived to be 18, you're talking 88 years old by the time the dog passes. Certainly not a light undertaking.
There are more couples hoping to adopt newborns than there are newborns who come up for adoption. But that statistic does a complete reversal with older children who become parentless — many more children than adults willing to adopt them.
If you're serious about adopting, consider a kid who needs YOU as much as you need him/her. Consider adopting an older child.
I have a friend who addopted kids in his lat 60. His grandchildren were older. He can't keep up with them and now worries when he and his wife die, who will take care of these kids
Considering everything I hear about how hard it is to adopt...the classes you have to take, etc....WHO allowed this to occur and WHY? Certainly not without requiring making legal arrangements for when they die or become incapacitated?
Only someone who never had to take complete care of a baby/growing child would ever have a fairy tale idea of doing it at 70 years old.
If you want your wife to divorce you - sure! Adopt a baby! LOL
And watch her not only move out, but refuse to help change one diaper or babysit for one minute. I bet she is laughing at the idea LOL.
Yeesh, it was exhausting at 22!
I lamented for awhile that my daughter didn't want to have kids, that I wouldn't get to do the grandma thing. But now I rejoice. I can take kids in small doses now, and preferably only the ones who can already speak English and wipe their own butts.
Don't even get a dog ! I'm 70, and I worry what will happen to my cat if I should pass. Taking on a baby is simply madness at this age.
You need to speak to a professional, what you are proposing is not reasonable or normal.
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