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Pay back is a B ~~~ if there was money in it <hate saying this - I am not a gold digger>. This would be the money that would have been mine had we stayed together. BUT ~~I would not have any real relationship with him~~~purely for legal reasons.
I don't see how it would help me. I am comfortable with the position I took when I made a clean break with him. I am at peace with my history, and have moved on to a great marriage for the last 20+ years.
I love some of these answers so far. Add me to the "female, no way" list.
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Originally Posted by Deelighted
The grandson is in high school.
Ah, so he's asking for a favor he doesn't even have any experience with (marriage). I'm guessing he's never had to be a caregiver of any type either, whether a baby/child or sick person.
Not only would I never, ever consider remarrying my cheating ex-spouse(yes, I have one), I hope her final days are.....well, never mind.
I hate to scare you, but there's a great chance, that with your next spouse, she may turn out to be a cheater as well.
Just like having a relationship with an alcoholic. I was in relationships with 3 alcoholics, all in a row. Went to Al Anon finally, and the big scare: You leave a relationship with an alcoholic, and there's an 85% chance you'll get involved with another one.
I hope she gets ill and wallows in her filthy diaper during a long, slow and painful death. (And just to be fair and not sexist, I hope our current man-boy president suffers the same fate and Melania never considers remarrying him).
I hope she gets ill and wallows in her filthy diaper during a long, slow and painful death. (And just to be fair and not sexist, I hope our current man-boy president suffers the same fate and Melania never considers remarrying him).
Most people find it too enigmatic to comprehend when I say: I'm too sadistic to kill Anyone!
I hate to scare you, but there's a great chance, that with your next spouse, she may turn out to be a cheater as well.
Just like having a relationship with an alcoholic. I was in relationships with 3 alcoholics, all in a row. Went to Al Anon finally, and the big scare: You leave a relationship with an alcoholic, and there's an 85% chance you'll get involved with another one.
What could be at work here? Projection!
It has to do with what we are attracted to. Alcoholics can be very charming, etc., which gets our attention and we think, hey this is a great person. Until their next binge or however their alcoholism presents itself.
Ever hear how women are attracted to "bad boys"? Same thing. Looking for excitement, love, etc. but are disappointed when it all goes away. So they look for the next "bad boy."
It's not necessarily something you do consciously. We have to learn to break the pattern. Not easy.
Woman here. No way in HELL. I may suggest to the grandson that he move in and take care of him!!!!
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