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Can’t we each have our own “facts” based on our own experiences?
Not if you stereotype or apply your own experience as being true of one group. someone stating they are coming across a lot of angry elderly is vastly different than stating why are all elderly people angry.
I’ve been dealing with an angry relative but she’s in her 30’s, so we avoid her the plague. I rarely come across or deal with angry old people but that’s because they aren’t the kind of people I make friends with. That said there are many old and elderly dealing with pain, health issues, grief , or caretaking a spouse and they are too exhausted to bounce around all cheery.
Aging can cause a down-turned mouth, droopy outer eyebrows and sagging cheeks giving your face a sense of sadness.
Not if you stereotype or apply your own experience as being true of one group. someone stating they are coming across a lot of angry elderly is vastly different than stating why are all elderly people angry.
I’ve been dealing with an angry relative but she’s in her 30’s, so we avoid her the plague. I rarely come across or deal with angry old people but that’s because they aren’t the kind of people I make friends with. That said there are many old and elderly dealing with pain, health issues, grief , or caretaking a spouse and they are too exhausted to bounce around all cheery.
Aging can cause a down-turned mouth, droopy outer eyebrows and sagging cheeks giving your face a sense of sadness.
I didn’t say “all” - or stereotype “all” . “Most” of the elderly in my family are angry, and I wrong about “most” of what my factual experience have been ?
I didn’t say “all” - or stereotype “all” . “Most” of the elderly in my family are angry, and I wrong about “most” of what my factual experience have been ?
Why do so many elderly become angry? Sure some have always been angry, but why do so many more become angry with age ? It would seem people should be more appreciative of a long life and all the enjoyment they had. Even if a persons life wasn’t that “great” they still lived longer than many. Doesn’t sunshine, a fresh breeze a baby’s giggle still mean something ?
Reread what I stated. Nobody is questioning your experience but your implication seems to be why do SO many and that’s where the questioning is. Not been my experience personally or professionally ( when I worked with the elderly), and others here don’t see “so” many either.
That said what do you think is making your elderly relatives angry and what would you like to do about it?
Why do so many elderly become angry? Sure some have always been angry, but why do so many more become angry with age ? It would seem people should be more appreciative of a long life and all the enjoyment they had. Even if a persons life wasn’t that “great” they still lived longer than many. Doesn’t sunshine, a fresh breeze a baby’s giggle still mean something ?
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Originally Posted by Muffinpuncher
I didn’t say “all” - or stereotype “all” . “Most” of the elderly in my family are angry, and I wrong about “most” of what my factual experience have been ?
Go on…
Don't see a word about your family in your initial post. I bolded the pertinent statements.
Possibly? Some type of very very early onset dementia? It’s totally mysterious, they all seemed to have had a good life . That what makes even harder to understand actually.
Besides the terror of or anger toward impending death, the elderly can be lonely.
It may not pertain to the specific angry relatives in thread title, but a good number of elderly face some isolation and loneliness..... and they may be frustrated too by not being able to fix it easily for themselves.
Besides the terror of or anger toward impending death, the elderly can be lonely.
It may not pertain to the specific angry relatives in thread title, but a good number of elderly face some isolation and loneliness..... and they may be frustrated too by not being able to fix it easily for themselves.
We’re possibly considering generational housing- maybe something like the Waltons ?
My dad was unhappy/dissatisfied about many things. He could be very polite, cheerful, and respectful when he wanted to be, but I suspect he spent much of his life angry and resentful about something. He was probably dealing with an autism spectrum disorder as he was socially awkward and had a lot of difficulty interpreting emotion. IME with him anyway, age does tend to magnify our inherent tendencies. Sort of distilling them down into a purer form.
Anger was the primary way he expressed his dissatisfaction and increasing insecurity, suspicion and assumptions that people intended to take advantage of him in some horrible way. So, he'd fly off the handle and lash out as if to fend the threat off. I suspect he was depressed for much of his life and had many regrets about the past he couldn't change. He was quite a grudge carrier. All this was on top of frustrations about everyday stuff like declining physical abilities and overall health, the declining vision and hearing he wouldn't do anything about, his miserliness, never-ending grief over my mother's passing from ALS, just resentment over the world at large. When people comment that someone's passing was a blessing, I suspect for him it really was.
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