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Kind of a odd post/question but here it goes.
My new Daughter in law recently exploded at me accusing me of being a paranoid loon and a bad Dad for teaching my Son to prep! Until now I was pretty proud of my self for getting him off on the right foot but she holds that I ruined his childhood and taught all the bad things in life....Not sure where all the hate is coming from...My Boy as a full time job and works at hard, did 6 yrs in the NG with a tour in Iraq, not a drunk /doper most important of he's not bugging me for money all the time...Anyone had anything similar happen?
Tod
Tell her to have a kid, come back in say, 25 years, and compare. Then she can start to debate. Until then? Shadddup.....
We will never know - all we have is your word . This is why personal stuff should not be aired to the public - it is unfair to come and present a "situation" and ask for advice when the party or parties involved do not have a say or cannot give us their view on things. It is even more wrong to make up advice about such a situation, especially with really no info provided on your part. But sure, I am happy to be wrong either way. I think this thread belongs in "Relationships" or whatever the heck that forum is called on CD . Agreed?
OP: We've never been confronted by the DIL, but she has never liked us. My guess is that she sees what a big influence we were on his life. She wants to control/dominate him, so she undermines us.
This would never happen if we worked to strengthen our families. I suffered contumelious attacks for daring to propose a solution to this sort of problem. I have been vindicated.
I wouldn't recommend this next part but I wouldn't be able to help myself from stirring the pot with a comment like "Yes, i taught him that and I can't wait until ya'll give me a grandson/daughter so I can teach them the same." That would really get her juices flowing. I don't think its advisable for long term peace though.
DO NOT DO THE ABOVE
I am glad you don't recommend it because this will make it VERY BAD. I don't think anyone's parents should interfere in their kids marriage for any reason . Everyone is different and peoples philosophy's are different as well . Leave these two alone. If you told me something like the above you'd never see your grandkids again . You do NOT tell anyone how you are going to raise THEIR kids .
I have a daughter in law who 7 years ago I caught digging in my purse for money .. now I love my second son enough that I DO NOT want to put him in a position of him having to pick me or her . She knows what will happen if I ever catch her in it again PLUS I now live 2500 miles away . However ... I want him to be free to make his own choices without fear of having me say I TOLD YOU SO ... or God forbid him having to defend her against me . It will work itself out or it won't . You just be you and let these two work out their own marriage . I don't think you are bad and I am a super blue dem that just lives day by day like I said earlier .
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Originally Posted by augiedogie
OP: We've never been confronted by the DIL, but she has never liked us. My guess is that she sees what a big influence we were on his life. She wants to control/dominate him, so she undermines us.
..and you do not want to let go to live his own life .
What is wrong with some of you all here ?? When your kids get married they LEAVE YOU for their own lives !!! Jesus H . That's how this is supposed to work . I wouldn't want to spend all my time with my inlaws and I loved mine . I miss my MIL I think more than my husband does .
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a few years ago we were snowed in for nearly 4 weeks, good job I had the supplies in hand, huh?
Good Lord , me , my ancient Mercedes, my last teen and 3 cats and a house rat went through Katrina together and made it out alive . It took more than 4 weeks . It was GROSS and dangerous but I had a will to live and enough street smarts to survive and I didn't go to the superdome . In some occasions it is going to take the WILL to live .
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We will never know - all we have is your word . This is why personal stuff should not be aired to the public
Give him a break it's an anonymous forum.
OP, I can't imagine my wife, if I were married, speak like that to my parents. She needs to be put back in her place.
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