Why can't anyone be happy for us ? (Tampa: living, law)

[flyboytampabay]

I am happy for you. Yes summers are very hot and humid. You do what you do in New York in the winter. Here you go from air conditioned house to air conditioned car to air conditioned building. If you have a pool you can swim. Plan outdoor activates when not in the heat of the day. These same naysayers will be asking to come visit you in the winter. Especially if they have one like last year. Good luck!

[OptimusPrime69]

When they're all freezing their butts off come October.... u can sit back and laugh as it's 85 degrees and gorgeous.

FYI- don't ever invite ur mother in law down when she's been stuck inside all winter long and is longing to see some sunshine and green trees.

[MAniacTHW]

Originally Posted by cjrudy

You make no sense

How did that make no sense?

[BucFan]

What's hard to understand MIL is going to be upset when you're talking her grandkids, her child away from her and moving over a thousand miles away. Friends and family may feel abandoned? By moving away, you're also indicating to them that they're living in an inferior place -----

My brother lives with his family in upstate NY and gets hit with snow every year and I make it a point not to rub in that I'm living in 72-degree, sunny weather while he's miserable up there shoveling snow. Maybe they're tired of hearing tht you're moving to "paradise" while they're stuck up there.

Can you make this move without making them feel miserable? Every place has its pluses and minuses.......

[cjrudy]

Originally Posted by BucFan

What's hard to understand MIL is going to be upset when you're talking her kids, her child away from her and moving over a thousand miles away. Friends and family may feel abandoned? Can you make this move without making them feel miserable?

Her grandchildren are going off to college anyway and its was her daughters decisions as well as mine.

We have never doen anything to make anyone feel miserable

And we're supposed to live our lives so as not to upset friends and family who may feel abandoned ?????



How about friends and family should be there to support us.

[dothetwist]

Originally Posted by cjrudy

Her grandchildren are going off to college anyway and its was her daughters decisions as well as mine.

We have never doen anything to make anyone feel miserable

And we're supposed to live our lives so as not to upset friends and family who may feel abandoned ?????



How about friends and family should be there to support us.

The best revenge is living well.

[convextech]

Originally Posted by BucFan

What's hard to understand MIL is going to be upset when you're talking her kids, her child away from her and moving over a thousand miles away. Friends and family may feel abandoned? By moving away, you're also indicating to them that they're living in an inferior place -----

My brother lives with his family in upstate NY and gets hit with snow every year and I make it a point not to rub in that I'm living in 72-degree, sunny weather while he's miserable up there shoveling snow. Maybe they're tired of hearing tht you're moving to "paradise" while they're stuck up there.

Can you make this move without making them feel miserable? Every place has its pluses and minuses.......

Guilt trip much?

[Roscoe Conkling]

Originally Posted by cjrudy

As we enter our last week in Buffalo before my son, daughter and I join my wife in Tampa, its become even more crystal clear that no one, including friends and family are truly happy for us.

We have been listening to the comments for months but this weekend it continued. We had a party to celebrate our daughters HS graduation, sons college graduation and our move. My wife came back into town for the party, the first time she had been back since March, yet the snarky comments continued.

Even those that say "Good Luck" have to follow up with "I hope it works out"

Then there's "My neighbor moved to Florida last year and hates it"

Or the popular "You know its hot in Florida" "There's bugs in Florida", "It rains a lot in Florida", "Traffics bad in Florida"............WTF people, enough


My mother - law has been one of the worst, never supporting us from the beginning and of course it continued at the party. My wife was talking to a friend and made the comment "we'll be living the dream" . My mother in law sitting a few feet away, stood up, threw her hands in the air and said " I cant listen to this talk anymore" and stormed off.

Then the constant family insinuations that we're trying to "Get Out" , whatever that means.


Anyways thanks for letting me vent, I don't understand why people just cant be happy for us.

They're jealous and ashamed that they don't have the guts to do what you're doing.
Follow your dream.

[BucFan]

Originally Posted by convextech

Guilt trip much?

just explaining "why can't anyone be happy for us?".......not condoning the behavior.

[retiredcop111]

Originally Posted by Tim Tim Tim

Something my dad taught me when I was in my mid teens (although didn't sink in until I was roughly 20) was that nobody will ever be happy for you. People are full of jealousy, selfishness and greed and whether its a job promotion, moving to your paradise or getting a new house/car people dont really care.

Im glad he taught me that because it has become quite apparent as me and my wife continue to get more successful and get nicer things. Even most family members arent really happy for you, now all of the sudden we are too good for people.. funny how that works.

So true!!!!