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I heard a rumour last week in my town that a guy I used to know from school disappeared and can't be located. He was a complete loner and didn't talk to anyone, actually was considered ''polite and good'' by teachers but then he got some mental problems, started using drugs and alcohol (which ironically he swore never to) and the police had to be called because he started stealing to get money. They said if he continued he would be off to prison and if he didn't like his parents, he was free to leave.
Long story-short, he lied to his parents about having a place to live and just left one day. Since he'd sold all his things (phone, computer), having no contact didn't alarm them and honestly his parents didn't really care. That was about 9 months ago.
I am wondering how common is this? We always are told that we are special to someone in this world and everyone has someone to care for them but is that true?
Its more common then one thinks. People drift apart from friends, have falling out with family. If they have other problems as well they may just bail to start over and they have no contact with anyone. Its a hard thing to do. Its a huge strain psychologically. Holidays hit especially hard for those living this way. Its something a person has to carry. It may be eased a bit if they marry or develop a new social circle.
This post caught my attention, as I had an unexpected falling out with a family member a (due to a Facebook post, a site Im not even on) and a not surprising issue with another family member just this week. That leaves one left I speak with. I do have friends and great in laws though thankfully.
Great post OP. This is a subject that is worth more attention, especially at a time where anxiety, depression and suicides have spiked as it has over the last several years.
If I understand the question correctly, it happens commonly and is unremarkable. There is no legal requirement that an adult remain in contact with his parents and acquaintances.
Its more common then one thinks. People drift apart from friends, have falling out with family. If they have other problems as well they may just bail to start over and they have no contact with anyone. Its a hard thing to do. Its a huge strain psychologically. Holidays hit especially hard for those living this way. Its something a person has to carry. It may be eased a bit if they marry or develop a new social circle.
This post caught my attention, as I had an unexpected falling out with a family member a (due to a Facebook post, a site Im not even on) and a not surprising issue with another family member just this week. That leaves one left I speak with. I do have friends and great in laws though thankfully.
Great post OP. This is a subject that is worth more attention, especially at a time where anxiety, depression and suicides have spiked as it has over the last several years.
It is scary to think that if you were potentially abducted into human trafficking/murdered by a serial killer no one would take notice with no social circle to report you missing as in the OP.
Unscrupulous people must have people in this profile as number 1
It is scary to think that if you were potentially abducted into human trafficking/murdered by a serial killer no one would take notice with no social circle to report you missing as in the OP.
Unscrupulous people must have people in this profile as number 1
This is one reason why prostitutes and homeless people are targeted by serial killers so often. No one notices they're missing.
Generally, those of us who have no social circle or family choose that way of living though. Nobody forced this young man to cut off all contact, even though he may have known his parents would be relieved if he did.
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What's really scary is if he didn't disappear at all, but the parents were sick of him hanging around and did him in. Do the police have proof that he is actually the one who sold his stuff?
In the mid-90s my mother was notified by the apartment manager that my sister seemed to have left, leaving everything she owned behind--food in the frig, dishes, clothes, car out front. Like she just walked out to get the mail and never came back.
By that time she'd alienated so many people in the family that no one reported her missing. My mother dealt with bill collector calls for years.
She popped up some 15 years later after a death in the family to inquire as to "her share" and commented that she could have been found if people had looked hard enough. Meh.
Everyone generally starts with connections. But it's up to the person to maintain the connections or one day you find that the bridges have all been burnt and no one really cares about you anymore.
I think it's less common.. I mean, almost everyone has SOMEONE who will miss them. Co-workers.. A relative, a friend.. SOMEONE.
A few do, however, fall through the cracks.. A good example is Jason Callahan, aka Grateful Doe.. A good case that i'd think most everyone here would be familiar with?
He disappeared and died in 1995.. His mother didn't report him missing until 2015.
And, of course, you hear about the people who are elderly and die alone in their homes and aren't discovered for years.
but, these are generally the exceptions, not the rule.
I think it's less common.. I mean, almost everyone has SOMEONE who will miss them. Co-workers.. A relative, a friend.. SOMEONE.
Not totally true. There are some people who don't have a single soul living who cares about them. They are all dead.
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