DC Metro guys, dating question (low cost, bill, suburb)
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I am probably on the wrong forum for this but this is a question geared toward DC and suburb guys. If you go out on a date with a woman and decide to pay half does that mean you are not that interested? The reason I posting the question here is because I noticed that this is a common practice here. I do not intend for this to be inflammatory but I am looking for sincere answers.
Too hard to tell from just one gesture like that. If I tell a chick to come hang out with me, then I pay. If it's a first date thing I usually go something low cost anyway so it's not a big deal. 90% of the time it's a happy hour with good drink specials so I'm not out more than $20. This way if there's no chemistry at all, it's not a big deal. I do take note if she offers to pay some of the bill though.
To determine whether or not he's interested you need to be looking at his actions after meeting up... is he reaching out to schedule another time to meet up? is he calling to talk to you? does he respond or call you back when you reach out to him? Those are things you need to look at.
If he asked you out the first time, why not initiate the 2nd date and see how he responds
I am probably on the wrong forum for this but this is a question geared toward DC and suburb guys. If you go out on a date with a woman and decide to pay half does that mean you are not that interested? The reason I posting the question here is because I noticed that this is a common practice here. I do not intend for this to be inflammatory but I am looking for sincere answers.
I think the first date a man should always pay. I'm a huge fan of chivalry. After a couple of dates I think it is nice for a woman to pick up the tab. I don't think going dutch means a guy isn't interested. Social norms have changed throughout the years and I think going dutch is fine. Just comes down to the guy (and woman).
I am probably on the wrong forum for this but this is a question geared toward DC and suburb guys. If you go out on a date with a woman and decide to pay half does that mean you are not that interested? The reason I posting the question here is because I noticed that this is a common practice here. I do not intend for this to be inflammatory but I am looking for sincere answers.
What was your conversation out? Did he "put his man-hood out"? Not literally, but meaning, did he let you know in his own flirtatious ways that he is a MAN and is interested in pursuing you on an sexual/intimate level? In other words, no matter how subtle, did he make it known that he wants to eventually bed you? Did he flirt or was it just a friendly meet up? What was your conversation like? Was he leading? Where you the one asking all the questions?
I am trying to figure out who was leading, forget about if his interested or not. If a man puts his "D" out, again, not literally and no matter how subtle, you know he is interested.
I am probably on the wrong forum for this but this is a question geared toward DC and suburb guys. If you go out on a date with a woman and decide to pay half does that mean you are not that interested? The reason I posting the question here is because I noticed that this is a common practice here. I do not intend for this to be inflammatory but I am looking for sincere answers.
I have never been on a date with a man here and paid on the first date. Maybe on the third or fourth--but if he asks you out, then it's on him to pay. If you ask him out, even if you expect to pay, a man will pay.
If he makes you pay half, don't go on another date with him--even if he seems interested.
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I am probably on the wrong forum for this but this is a question geared toward DC and suburb guys. If you go out on a date with a woman and decide to pay half does that mean you are not that interested? The reason I posting the question here is because I noticed that this is a common practice here. I do not intend for this to be inflammatory but I am looking for sincere answers.
Me personally, depends. I've paid half when a woman offered to pay her share. One date I paid half because I was simply not interested and just didn't give a whether she liked it or not since that was the end of us anyway. Again, depends.
I met these men on a online dating site. Normally I pay half or sometimes I end up paying for the whole date. They rarely offer to pay.
Damn! You have paid for the whole date? I think the majority of people on online dating sites are terrible. So many of them have issues (baggage, flaky, game players, etc.) I think it is so much easier meeting people just randomly out and about. If I were you I would close my account ASAP if you're meeting guys like this or have a more thorough screening process. I tried the online dating thing on and off for years and it was terrible for the most part.
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whether she liked it or not since that was the end of us anyway. Again, depends.
