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We had a family brunch the next day and the newlyweds opened gifts. It was actually a lot of fun and everyone enjoyed it.
With that being said, I was EXHAUSTED. Might not have done it if I had realized how tired I was going to be. I had to get up the next morning and do some cooking and clean the house up after the getting ready mess the day before.
When we got back from the honeymoon, my parents invited my in-laws over and we opened gifts. By that time, all the wedding guests had gone home, so it was just the 6 of us, IRC, maybe some grandparents.
When I got married we opened gifts the morning after the wedding at a family brunch. When my daughter got married they had to leave very early in the morning on their honeymoon so no brunch. Gifts were packed up and opened by them at their home once they returned.
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Originally Posted by Snd485
I just recently heard about this tradition. We didn't do it. My mom and I opened the presents together the day after the wedding.
I can sorta understand the newly weds' mom or other relative helping open the gifts. At one time I would have thought it was "silly". But the traditions in Japan when my father-in-law died involved gift giving....often cash gifts to help defray the cost of the funeral. For the purpose of thank you notes and gifts from the bereaved to those who helped them in the time of grief....it is important to keep track of who donated money (and the amount--since the return gift should be in proportion to the gift rec'd)
There are companies that specialize in thank you gifts for this purpose and suggest a range....so an appropriate gift can be given. It struck me as an odd custom......and my Japanese DP now thinks so too....but it works for the Japanese. In any case keeping track of who gave what is important there......and regarding the OP.....it is important that the bride be able to send Thank You Notes and mention the gift rec'd. Mothers are good at that.
I can sorta understand the newly weds' mom or other relative helping open the gifts. At one time I would have thought it was "silly". But the traditions in Japan when my father-in-law died involved gift giving....often cash gifts to help defray the cost of the funeral. For the purpose of thank you notes and gifts from the bereaved to those who helped them in the time of grief....it is important to keep track of who donated money (and the amount--since the return gift should be in proportion to the gift rec'd)
There are companies that specialize in thank you gifts for this purpose and suggest a range....so an appropriate gift can be given. It struck me as an odd custom......and my Japanese DP now thinks so too....but it works for the Japanese. In any case keeping track of who gave what is important there......and regarding the OP.....it is important that the bride be able to send Thank You Notes and mention the gift rec'd. Mothers are good at that.
I would edit this to say "it is important that the couple be able to send thank you notes..." etc. Thank you's are not only the responsibility of the bride. Most brides today are working just as much as their husbands are.
I just thought it unusual that the poster referred only to her mother. Not that the mother was there, but it seemed like her new husband ..... wasn't.
Last edited by maciesmom; 04-21-2014 at 09:12 AM..
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I would edit this to say "it is important that the couple be able to send thank you notes..." etc. Thank you's are not only the responsibility of the bride. Most brides today are working just as much as their husbands are.
I just thought it unusual that the poster referred only to her mother. Not that the mother was there, but it seemed like her new husband ..... wasn't.
I would edit this to say "it is important that the couple be able to send thank you notes..." etc. Thank you's are not only the responsibility of the bride. Most brides today are working just as much as their husbands are.
I just thought it unusual that the poster referred only to her mother. Not that the mother was there, but it seemed like her new husband ..... wasn't.
Lol, that was my post. My husband is great, just not that interested in our gift registry. There were a couple of things he wanted but he really didn't have a clue what some of the kitchen stuff we got even was, lol. It was a lot more fun to ooo and ahh over our new gifts with my mom.
So, my mom and I opened the gifts and cards and made a list of who gave what. After the honeymoon, I gave my husband a couple boxes of thank you cards, stamps and half of the gift list to write thank yous. I took the other half of the list.
Since most of our gifts were cash/check, it would have been especially inappropriate.
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