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I'm not officially engaged* yet but will probably get married in the next 1-2 years. I'm not really serious about looking for wedding gowns yet but more of a looking online to see what I like. What I generally like are more traditional gowns with the blusher veil (veil covers the face), a long train and veil. However a relative got into an argument because they said because I am older I shouldn't wear a train or veil, especially blusher. That infuriated me because as a first time bride I have the right to wear anything a first time bride does. It's bad enough I'm marrying later than usual why should I be penalized a second time? I am going to wear a blusher and a long train. I figure if people don't like it they don't have to come.
The reason we aren't official yet is because we want to get our finances more in line. I am thinking of going back to school next year for a year program. We talk about what we want in a wedding.
I guess it bothered me because they were judging me. They made me feel bad for wanting a formal ceremony because according to them I should do the courthouse thing followed by a picnic. That's good for some but not my thing.
Wear whatever you want to wear. It's your wedding!
Personally, I think a blusher veil is great... I don't know why your relative has such strong objections. But then, if you were to ask all your friends and relatives for their opinions, they would be all over the map... wear white, don't wear white... go strapless, don't go strapless... go floor length, go knee length... just go with what you want to wear, because you're going to be the one wearing it.
I won't wear strapless though. That style (to me) looks tacky on most brides and while I am toned for my age I wouldn't feel comfortable. This relative has always been judgmental towards me so this is her latest.
I won't wear strapless though. That style (to me) looks tacky on most brides and while I am toned for my age I wouldn't feel comfortable. This relative has always been judgmental towards me so this is her latest.
First of all -- I dare her to find a gown without a train. Just ain't happening.
Second of all -- keep in mind that a strapless gown can be a starting point. The strapless gown can be altered with a lace overlay (like what Kate wore), or jackets, or cap sleeves/ straps made from tulle or lace -- almost all the strapless gowns I've seen on TV and magazines can be adjusted to fit your style. And some of the gowns that aren't strapless by design lack a lot of structure, and sort of look baggy and shapeless.
I don't like strapless gowns either, but after watching a lot of these bridal shows and having sewing experience (and I do not sew bridal -- that to me is some amazing sewing) -- I'm getting the idea of what the boning structure does -- especially for a long formal gown.
You can find unstructured gowns at modest gown sites -- and they look like stuff out of the 60's. That was fine for the 60's ... it's not the 60's anymore.
Third of all -- this is your first wedding. Tell your relative to kindly stuff it.
If you know the relative is so critical, why even discuss it with her? You deserve to wear anything you'd like at your wedding. Do what you want, and let your wedding dress be a surprise to all of your guests.
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First of all -- I dare her to find a gown without a train. Just ain't happening.
Second of all -- keep in mind that a strapless gown can be a starting point. The strapless gown can be altered with a lace overlay (like what Kate wore), or jackets, or cap sleeves/ straps made from tulle or lace -- almost all the strapless gowns I've seen on TV and magazines can be adjusted to fit your style. And some of the gowns that aren't strapless by design lack a lot of structure, and sort of look baggy and shapeless.
I don't like strapless gowns either, but after watching a lot of these bridal shows and having sewing experience (and I do not sew bridal -- that to me is some amazing sewing) -- I'm getting the idea of what the boning structure does -- especially for a long formal gown.
You can find unstructured gowns at modest gown sites -- and they look like stuff out of the 60's. That was fine for the 60's ... it's not the 60's anymore.
Third of all -- this is your first wedding. Tell your relative to kindly stuff it.
I didn't know this until recently when someone told me. I thought that if you got a strapless that was it, but a friend who got married told me what happens now usually is you buy a strapless then they add other things like sleeves. I don't mind dresses with a bit of cleavage (I have a large chest)but definitely want to cover my arms or at least the upper arms and shoulders. I'm not sure but I think in Catholic weddings the shoulders have to be covered anyway. My relative told me I should buy a dress at a regular store, like a prom dress. I actually know someone who did that, then they had it altered to add a train. I like cathedral trains, but kind of like what my mom has, which is a removable train. I like her dress but can't wear it because I am considerably taller and heavier than my mom.
That's silly, it doesn't matter how old you are. Wear what you want! I'm not a big fan of strapless dresses either, but I do love them with overlays.
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Do what you want, and let your wedding dress be a surprise to all of your guests.
