What do you think of inviting would-be guests to ceremony (not reception) only? (invite, money)
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I have seen various threads across the web that ask this same question and was wondering on a philosophically etiquette point of view, what your view and opinion about this is especially if its not a close friend/family member?
the rationale behind doing this and taking this course of action is that its either to expensive or not enough space at the reception venue to have everyone they want at the wedding reception but don't want to exclude everyone they know in their life, so they compromise and invite them to the ceremony only to somehow make these people feel included.
would you invite would-be guests to a ceremony only invite if money/room at the reception was an issue and didn't want to exclude no too close people in your life from the wedding altogether?
I've been to several receptions where the couple had a more private ceremony and a larger party after, but vice-versa doesn't sit right. The social expectation is that you're inviting these people to share in your event, and providing them with a piece of cake at the very least to show your appreciation. Kicking most people out after the ceremony is over is not exactly in the spirit of bringing people together. Planning a wedding is being a host, and you shouldn't invite more people than you can host.
I have seen this done when the bride was an elementary or preschool teacher and she invited all of her students, and their parents, to the wedding ceremony. In the couple of cases that I know about they specifically stated no presents.
In another situation, someone invited the people that she worked with at a group home for the cognitively delayed, and again, stated no presents.
Other than that, IMHO, invite guests to everything or not at all.
I have heard of churches where parishioners may show uninvited to a ceremony as a way of supporting the family and the couple. That is their own choice though.
I have seen various threads across the web that ask this same question and was wondering on a philosophically etiquette point of view, what your view and opinion about this is especially if its not a close friend/family member?
the rationale behind doing this and taking this course of action is that its either to expensive or not enough space at the reception venue to have everyone they want at the wedding reception but don't want to exclude everyone they know in their life, so they compromise and invite them to the ceremony only to somehow make these people feel included.
would you invite would-be guests to a ceremony only invite if money/room at the reception was an issue and didn't want to exclude no too close people in your life from the wedding altogether?
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No. If I couldn't invite people to BOTH the wedding and the reception I'd either invite them to neither or find a bigger venue and include them in both. I've never heard of inviting someone to the wedding only. And would find it insulting and tacky if anyone did.
I have seen this done when the bride was an elementary or preschool teacher and she invited all of her students, and their parents, to the wedding ceremony. In the couple of cases that I know about they specifically stated no presents.
In another situation, someone invited the people that she worked with at a group home for the cognitively delayed, and again, stated no presents.
Other than that, IMHO, invite guests to everything or not at all.
^^This.
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