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Since the guys here are finding outright rejection done matter of factly impolite, I have thought of a solution.
Next time he hits on you OP say, "While I am involved with someone, I have a widowed grandmother who is available". Say it loud enough for all nearby customers to hear.
Solves the problem for all-gives him an option, and you an opt out.
Since the guys here are finding outright rejection done matter of factly impolite, I have thought of a solution.
Next time he hits on you OP say, "While I am involved with someone, I have a widowed grandmother who is available". Say it loud enough for all nearby customers to hear.
Solves the problem for all-gives him an option, and you an opt out.
A win-win.
I wish I would have used this, when I was OP's age, and getting hit on by men old enough to be my father. Actually, now that I think about it, "hit on" may not be entirely accurate, since I think for most it was their version/idea of harmless flattery, and some would have likely been shocked (and turned and ran away) if I'd have actually expressed an interest. But regardless of the intent, what I was hoping to convey was some understanding and empathy to OP .... and to the truly nice but otherwise perhaps a little bit clueless guys who think it's OK to express a romantic interest in your store clerk/waitress/ticket taker/bartender, etc .... I truly believe that most women do not welcome this kind of attention. We probably vary in terms of our tolerance level ... but it's just not, in general, something we enjoy.
In fact, I will be honest: When men old enough to be my father/grandfather would hit on me, I'd feel insulted and disgusted.
I wish I would have used this, when I was OP's age, and getting hit on by men old enough to be my father. Actually, now that I think about it, "hit on" may not be entirely accurate, since I think for most it was their version/idea of harmless flattery, and some would have likely been shocked (and turned and ran away) if I'd have actually expressed an interest. But regardless of the intent, what I was hoping to convey was some understanding and empathy to OP .... and to the truly nice but otherwise perhaps a little bit clueless guys who think it's OK to express a romantic interest in your store clerk/waitress/ticket taker/bartender, etc .... I truly believe that most women do not welcome this kind of attention. We probably vary in terms of our tolerance level ... but it's just not, in general, something we enjoy.
In fact, I will be honest: When men old enough to be my father/grandfather would hit on me, I'd feel insulted and disgusted.
So you mean to tell me relationships have never been formed from a guy expressing an interest in a waitress, store clerk, etc?
If the guy is respectful of the fact that she's currently at work, I don't see any issue whatsoever.
So you mean to tell me relationships have never been formed from a guy expressing an interest in a waitress, store clerk, etc?
If the guy is respectful of the fact that she's currently at work, I don't see any issue whatsoever.
Apples and oranges. If you can't see the difference, your approach needs some work (but I bet you know that already).
Realizing a mutual attraction and pursuing it via subtle conversation is not the same as just walking up to someone and asking "do you have a boyfriend". He may have well just said "hey, you want to f@!&?". It comes across just as creepy.
The moment he asked if she had a boyfriend, he stopped being respectful that she was currently at work.
As a cashier, you are in the customer service business. That means you have to handle jerks in a nice way. It's not always easy, but you have to find a way to do it.
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