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The woman was out of line and so was your co-worker for repeating nasty comment to you. You do not owe some random woman in the building anything other than the professional courtesy that you did extend her.
Any other feedback about what happened? Would like to know how to proceed from here. I do not want to have to report this woman to her supervisor unless it becomes absolutely necessary.
I've read your account. Reporting her for this is completely insane.
She tried to be friendly towards you, and you basically gave her the cold shoulder. You're a self admitted introvert. It sounds like she described you accurately from her point of view. Your coworker repeated it to you, and now....you're upset at this?
Seriously, simply move on and forget about it, or consider how you appear to others and try to interact better.
However I think her superiors ought to be made aware of the character (or lack there of) that some of their employees posses.
That being said I will give it some thought before going forward on this. I would settle for an apology as well.
Until then I have nothing to say to such an individual who would stoop to insult someone she barely knows.
Up till now, you seem quite proud of your polite yet detached demeanor at the workplace.
Now, however, you are letting this secondhand story that you don't even know is true fester inside of you. If you let your ego get control of you, you will jeopardize your job.
LEAVE IT ALONE. You don't know that woman. You don't know anything about her character. You have nothing to report.
I've read your account. Reporting her for this is completely insane.
She tried to be friendly towards you, and you basically gave her the cold shoulder. You're a self admitted introvert. It sounds like she described you accurately from her point of view. Your coworker repeated it to you, and now....you're upset at this?
Seriously, simply move on and forget about it, or consider how you appear to others and try to interact better.
My point is that I do not need this woman to spread rumors about me...true or untrue.
Being a gossip can cause serious issues in a professional environment.
Her comments about me reflect negatively upon both me and the building management as a entity.
My concern is that her gossip could potentially damage my career.
My point is that I do not need this woman to spread rumors about me...true or untrue.
Being a gossip can cause serious issues in a professional environment.
Her comments about me reflect negatively upon both me and the building management as a entity.
My concern is that her gossip could potentially damage my career.
I assure you, going to some companies HR department and complaining is FAR more likely to damage your career. People everywhere gossip. Like it or not thats reality. And her observations do not sound inaccurate-from her perspective.
Which would you prefer
"When did he lose his personality"...from one person
OR
"Hes the jerk that got linda written up because she mentioned he had no personality"...from 50.
FAR FAR worse things will eventually be said about you as you work at places. I guarantee it. You need to judge when its worth any effort on your part-and this is not one of those times. You can turn someone being annoyed at you for you acting like you have no personality, into someone actively trying to get you fired.
I assure you, going to some companies HR department and complaining is FAR more likely to damage your career. People everywhere gossip. Like it or not thats reality. And her observations do not sound inaccurate-from her perspective.
Which would you prefer
"When did he lose his personality"...from one person
OR
"Hes the jerk that got linda written up because she mentioned he had no personality"...from 50.
FAR FAR worse things will eventually be said about you as you work at places. I guarantee it. You need to judge when its worth any effort on your part-and this is not one of those times. You can turn someone being annoyed at you for you acting like you have no personality, into someone actively trying to get you fired.
People like this end up fired because they're viewed as thin-skinned troublemakers who are difficult to work with. But 20 may be just the right time to learn that lesson, so I'm sticking with my post encouraging him to report her.
My point is that I do not need this woman to spread rumors about me...true or untrue.
Being a gossip can cause serious issues in a professional environment.
Her comments about me reflect negatively upon both me and the building management as a entity.
My concern is that her gossip could potentially damage my career.
How do you know she said this? Maybe your friend is a liar? It happens. Sometimes people do this(lie to Person A about what Person B said about them) to alienate someone and make sure they don't form a friendship with another person.
Bottom line, keep this to yourself as if you were never told this info. You cannot verify 100% that it's true unless you confront that lady.
And as the other person said - beware of your big mouth 'friend'. He's proven to you that he is a gossip. Don't say anything to him that you don't want spread around to others. I think he's more to blame than that lady. Don't trust him. Be on guard with everything you say around him at all times.
I've read your account. Reporting her for this is completely insane.
She tried to be friendly towards you, and you basically gave her the cold shoulder. You're a self admitted introvert. It sounds like she described you accurately from her point of view. Your coworker repeated it to you, and now....you're upset at this?
Seriously, simply move on and forget about it, or consider how you appear to others and try to interact better.
Yes, OP, if you are worried about your career, take her comments to heart and consider how your "quiet dignity" may come across to other people. You may not be "obligated" to be friendly, but if you are really worried about your career, you will do better if you at least try to be friendly with your clients. As an introvert I know it can be hard, but at worst you come across as awkward. Keep maintaining your quiet dignity and you invite people to think that you are arrogant or aloof.
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