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She needs to know its just a job. Whats the worse that will happen, she will get fired? Her attitude will make all the difference; she needs to try and do the job as best as she can, and when she leaves each day, leave the job there.
She can't get another job? Well, she got that one. She can get another one. She just has to try. And keep trying. Until she gets another job. There are jobs all over the place, in spite of what the news media will tell you. I see "help wanted" jobs all over town, and Im not in a big town.
She's too old to be acting like a teenager. Instead of acting like a weenie, she needs to get mad. And do the very best she can. IF thats not good enough, find something else. Attitude is everything.
Almost forty responses but no one has asked why the bosses are unhappy with her performance? Does she make a lot of mistakes? Do incomplete work? Ignore deadlines? Show up late or call in sick? Are they right to be unhappy with the performance or does the girlfriend have a legitimate gripe?
Nobody, maybe not even the OP, knows why her bosses are unhappy with her but everybody has advice on how to deal with the situation. Has the OP asked the tough questions? What's really going on?
Yeah, there's something she's not doing right.
Also, she needs to ditch the bottle. Drinking makes you irrational, among other things.
Tell her to woman up. There are poor kids and people in Syria who are trapped and starving in cold conditions, yet your girlfriend is moaning about getting another job. Just tell her to speak to her colleagues in private about the way she is being treated. It sounds like she needs to grow a backbone and approach these "Nazis" and settle the issues face to face otherwise things won't change. If she wants a new job then she has to apply for a new one, which means applying every free time she gets.
Unfortunately it can be reality. Some senior manager might hire her, thinking it would be an asset to have a young pretty girl in the company. She then works for line managers who are not accountable to the one who hired her.
Women can be just as cruel as men and more so. I have seen exactly such, where grumpy women harass an attractive woman and the other way around. I knew a few women in a large office where they were the butt of many jokes by the "in crowd" women there.
I had a female supervisor, older woman, who was also very jealous of younger women who were more intelligent and/or more educated. She routinely harassed a young woman 10 times smarter than herself who always did a good job.
At any rate, if it is not a thing with your GF's attitude, she should look for another job. Temporary services are a good place to start. They can get her in the door of a lot of places that "are not hiring". She also needs to work on not getting any more DWI's. If drinking is a big issue, maybe she needs to start going to AA. Above all, she should not cry in the workplace. That is a sheep baring herself to the wolves. Night classes may be a good idea, to get more education on the resume. Not always fair but many employers give a lot of credit for more education.
Last edited by jmellc; 01-11-2016 at 11:58 AM..
Reason: Grammar
Well she has no college under her belt and along with that she has two DUIs on her record that she says will keep her from getting a good job. She has had jobs waitressing and as a cashier but that's about it.
All the answers are in your post. She is still drinking, and employes who are difficult to motivate are quite franklt, a pain in the ass. Tell your girlfriend to try working on her performance and practice uing a QTIP.
Quit
Taking
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Personally
Only thing any of us control is our own reaction.
We often dwell on the need for other people to change than address our own issues.
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