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Honestly? I would continue to go into work and ignore it. You have done all you can. You have gone to the manager, you have gone to her, you have tried to be aware of her upset. Aside from giving her your check each week, I am guessing she is not going to be happy.
Excellent advice and it sums up that you've done all you can to make this situation right. She's got a chip that you can't remove. You've shown that you wanted to make peace, she obliged for a while and is now back to her 'old ways'. I commend you for your efforts - and am sorry that the lion is back in the room.
Things got a slightly better for a while but the behaviour started again shortly afterwards. How would you handle this? Would it be wise to discuss this situation with my manager and mention the raise issue or keep quiet?
I'd say "Ignore it" there's times you just CANNOT make people like you.
You're making $$$ and that's what and where your focus should be.
When I say a quiet word, this was in our cafeteria when it wasn't busy and there were other people about.
We used to get on well prior to this and I am quite sure all this originates from the raise I received. Raises and bonuses are kept hush hush in my company to avoid situations like this so I am suprised my manager saved this document on shared network space which can be viewed by other people.
I feel I should make my manager aware of the document and my concerns my colleague has seen it but am concerned the reaction will be that I shouldnt have looked at it either and land myself in hot water.
Thanks for all your advice so far.
Well that's OK as far as touching her goes, but since the cafeteria was empty unless those around could hear what you were saying she could still say you said something inappropriate to her. They were probably texting and not even noticing you. So not good witnesses if you needed a witness.
I would avoid being alone with her if possible.
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Originally Posted by Kim in FL
How is she being hostile by not acknowledging your 'good morning'? It's rude, but certainly not hostile and HR would laugh you out of the office if you claimed hostility.
She doesn't like you, she doesn't have to like you and she doesn't have to tell you why she doesn't like you. My guess is it has nothing to do with your raise and more to do with your personality. Ignore her snarky comments, stop trying to have 'quiet words' with her and just do your job.
I agree that you should talk to your manager about the document being on a shared drive...income, raises and bonuses are no one's business and quite honestly, that's your only legitimate 'issue' in this thread.
OP, is the coworker's attitude negatively affecting the work your employer needs from you?
No I wouldn't say it is. It just creates a bad atmosphere within our team. I think like others have said it is best just to ignore and not let her get under my skin.
Someone else here gave you very bad advice and told you to start looking for another job. Whatever you do don't do that. You are obviously a more valued employee than some and it would be a mistake to leave because of this jerk.
I would just avoid her and not try anymore. Do what you have to do to get along and get things done, but she doesn't like you and isn't your friend. You have to work with her, that's all.
I wouldn't bring it up right now with my employer either. Maybe if you are ever called into your bosses office for him to tell you about a new raise talk to him then. Just ask if they are confidential and explain what happened before without specifics or naming names. What happened was bad for employee moral. Maybe your boss doesn't see it or it could be it was done on purpose because he's someone that likes to stir things up. That kind of thing has to be handled carefully. You don't want to come across as complaining about getting a raise.
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