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I don't know all of the issues at your old job, and maybe they would still be too problematic, but would working remotely from where you are now be an option? It seems like it would be tough to leave your sister to cope with the things that are going to arise from what your mother is going through, and if that was a good enough reason to move in the first place, those reasons haven't just gone away. But if you could stay where you are and earn the higher salary, that might go a long way to making it more pleasant to be where you are in the short term, and give you enough time to make contacts and connections in your new location that will give you more options job-wise over the longer term.
Not sure what to say about the boyfriend, but it does sound like the relationship might be a bit more one-sided than is healthy.
emm74 that's a good suggestion but I'm not sure they would go for it. The boyfriend situation is not one-sided, I don't want to go into all the details, we've been together a long time and we love each other but there have been issues.
I wish I could just find a way to feel happier. That's what it really comes down to. I don't like my living situation, my cats aren't happy, I hate being alone, I hate missing my friends, I hate being broke. I just feel so sad, all the time. I am the world's biggest optimist/cheerful person but all I've done since I've gotten here is cry.
Personally I would move back. I've been there done that watching my parents deal with the end stage of life for 2 of my grandparents and believe me money matters. You need money to get her the quality care she needs. Not directly but in the sense of paying for all the associated things needed when browsing for facilities, potentially using a broker or agent for nursing homes that accept particular types of LTD insurance etc. You need to take time off work to contact different facilities etc. If your old work place can deal with that and give you flexibility then why not. Interview with your new boss and see what happens. Or based on your post, do you even need an interview or would they just hire you right of the bat if you say "Yes"?
If it's the latter, I would say Yes as you have nothing to lose. How far away is your mother living from your old home?
emm74 that's a good suggestion but I'm not sure they would go for it. The boyfriend situation is not one-sided, I don't want to go into all the details, we've been together a long time and we love each other but there have been issues.
I wish I could just find a way to feel happier. That's what it really comes down to. I don't like my living situation, my cats aren't happy, I hate being alone, I hate missing my friends, I hate being broke. I just feel so sad, all the time. I am the world's biggest optimist/cheerful person but all I've done since I've gotten here is cry.
I can understand you are back and forth but if all you've done since getting to the new place is cry then it does not seem like a good switch. You don't have to go back to your boyfriend. But the job offer is definitely a compelling reason to consider. And particularly the fact that it's a new department and not the old one. If you say the company overall is OK then try it out.
emm74 that's a good suggestion but I'm not sure they would go for it. The boyfriend situation is not one-sided, I don't want to go into all the details, we've been together a long time and we love each other but there have been issues.
I wish I could just find a way to feel happier. That's what it really comes down to. I don't like my living situation, my cats aren't happy, I hate being alone, I hate missing my friends, I hate being broke. I just feel so sad, all the time. I am the world's biggest optimist/cheerful person but all I've done since I've gotten here is cry.
Could you work remotely part time for them to supplement your present income, and perhaps agree to fly or drive with them paying, one week/month to be on site?
I've been there done that watching my parents deal with the end stage of life for 2 of my grandparents and believe me money matters. You need money to get her the quality care she needs. Not directly but in the sense of paying for all the associated things needed when browsing for facilities, potentially using a broker or agent for nursing homes that accept particular types of LTD insurance etc
Tencent, my mother is already in the home, it's been over a year already. Believe me, I know what a financial and legal nightmare it is. Fortunately my brother was a big help, but yes, we did already go through all that.
I'm going to ask about the remote option. All they can say is no, right?
Yes, it sort of seems like I would be giving up on my dream just when I have the chance to make it
reality.
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"Dreams" don't buy groceries.
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I'm going to ask about the remote option. All they can say is no, right?
Don't infuse too much of your drama into the workplace. Bosses are generous....to a point. After that, they just want a good employee who does their job without a lot of "special" considerations.
Mom is in a good situation. Sister can keep an eye on Mom. You need to get back to professional and personal happiness.
I'm going to ask about the remote option. All they can say is no, right?
I was going to suggest the same thing, with an important difference. If you just ask whether you could do the work remotely, chances are high that the hiring manager will say "no." Ask the question, but briefly present a plan for how it could be made to work. You need to make it clear that if allowed the privilege of working remotely that you will be a productive employee who requires minimal supervision to deliver results.
Make it easy for the employer to say "yes" to your request.
I would move back and take the job back. Is it possible the sister could sell her house and move with you? That would solve both problems.
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