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I'll keep this post to-the-point, hopefully you can offer some clarity.
The company I work at launched its product within the past year (I've been at the company one year). The business is doing well, and management has been looking to add staff. I referred someone from my previous company who I had a good business relationship with and felt would do a good job. My boss trusts my judgement, and offered the person I referred the position.
Around this time, I had texted the person I referred asking if he received any update (I was unaware of the offer). He tells me there has been no update. Evidently, he was lying. My boss mentioned to me that he was offered the position, and my referral said no without much of an explanation. I reached out to him upon hearing the news to ask what concerns he had (that I could help alleviate). Never heard back.
Why he said no will always remain a mystery. He would have received a promotion over his current job, as well as a substantial raise. I guess what bothers me is I stuck my neck out for him, and he cut my boss and I off. I felt bad about it and didn't want this guy's attitude to reflect poorly on me or my boss. My boss assured me it wouldn't, and I had done what I could.
For anyone who's been in the referring position or the person being referred, why would someone say no and then cut you off in this fashion? Seems dumb to me. He was a fit for the role, but I'll never recommend him for a position again.
You can speculate forever but that would be a pointless waste of time. You should stop trying to figure the person out. He doesn't want the job, and he doesn't want to explain himself to you. It's over and done with. Life goes on.
It sounds he used the offer as a bargaining chip to get a raise. He probably went to his current employer and said something like "I was offered a new position. I am willing to stay here if you are able to match their offer."
Maybe he was to embarassed to say that's what his plan was.
It doesn't matter in the end. It happened to me also.
Somebody was complaining about a $55k job and they had never left the company after 10 years, so they got 1-2%. They were still titled as a jr employee, after 10 years. I stuck my neck out for them and referred them for a job paying $95k. They were offered an interview, lied that they never received any calls.
They ghosted me. I dropped them from my LinkedIn list. I don't want them contacting me again for another job offer. I didn't want to be ghosted a 2nd time.
Did you want a long term friendship out of referring them for the job?
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