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Memory lane. Years ago I had a manager that had a bad memory. On Monday I told him that I needed to take the morning off on Thursday to take my elderly dad to the doctor for health issues. He said ok and was greatly concern for my dad. He even looked up the health issue online and talked to me about it. Wednesday right before I left the office I reminded him and he said ok. Thursday morning while I was at the soctor's office I got a call from him. He was very angry and asked me if I had turned in a letter of resignation? Puzzled, I asked him why? He said did I just not want to come in today? I reminded him we talked about this all week and I needed to take my dad in for some tests. To my surprise, he had no memory of our talk.
I never trusted him ever again after that.
Ever since that incident, I'd have other managers that had bad memories as well. I never felt safe around them and always try to go work under someone else. I consider them ticking time bombs.
I'm sure others here have had managers with bad memories. Do you ever feel safe with them?
EVERYTHING that has to do with time off from work, complaints, compliments, goals or anything to do with a rental should be put in writing and signed by the one who received the document that it has been received. Then there is a paper trail and no guessing who did what when and why.
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We do requests for time off on Sharepoint, with emails sent automatically upon a request or approval/denial. Then those involved update their Outlook Calendar. I'm not sure I would remember every appointment or even day off for my people without checking their calendar. If the OP is the only employee, I would say that there is a memory issue and everything should be done to remind the boss and avoid confusion.
Memory lane. Years ago I had a manager that had a bad memory. On Monday I told him that I needed to take the morning off on Thursday to take my elderly dad to the doctor for health issues. He said ok and was greatly concern for my dad. He even looked up the health issue online and talked to me about it. Wednesday right before I left the office I reminded him and he said ok. Thursday morning while I was at the soctor's office I got a call from him. He was very angry and asked me if I had turned in a letter of resignation? Puzzled, I asked him why? He said did I just not want to come in today? I reminded him we talked about this all week and I needed to take my dad in for some tests. To my surprise, he had no memory of our talk.
I never trusted him ever again after that.
Ever since that incident, I'd have other managers that had bad memories as well. I never felt safe around them and always try to go work under someone else. I consider them ticking time bombs.
I'm sure others here have had managers with bad memories. Do you ever feel safe with them?
Yes, had about the same thing.
Told my boss I'd be in late the next day, had a doc appointment, he called me at 10 am asking where I was, I said 'Doctors office as I said yesterday" he said "God I need to see one myself for forgetting that" and he hung up. I got to work he apologized for that...
In your case, it IS troubling ....I recall from reading of Eisenhower's (Before he became President) dealing with a general who he spoke with about taking a vacation and the general agreeing he'd arrange it. The very next week, the general got VERY agitated by Eisenhower's gentle chiding of him taking a vacation. The general had NO recollection of the discussion.....The general later was committed and killed himself...
We do requests for time off on Sharepoint, with emails sent automatically upon a request or approval/denial. Then those involved update their Outlook Calendar. I'm not sure I would remember every appointment or even day off for my people without checking their calendar. If the OP is the only employee, I would say that there is a memory issue and everything should be done to remind the boss and avoid confusion.
There were 5 of us in that team. The thing that scared me the most at the time was I knew he had bad memory so I talked about it to him all week every day leading up to that day and he still forgot about it. If I reminded him every day of that week leading up to that day and he still forgot, what else did he forget that I didn't know he forgot?
Ok, now that I don't have to use my phone to post (been traveling all day), I can expand a little more on this.
The reason I have a flashback to that old manager of mine that forgot about my taking my dad to the doctor thing was something along the line happened yesterday.
A couple weeks ago, I was doing some calculations for the next pay estimate. The documentation guy came over my office, saw what I was doing, and told me "you don't need to do that, so-and-so already got that done". Trusting his word, I said ok and moved on to something else.
Well, yesterday, I was putting together the pay estimate and asked the documentation guy where the calc for that particular thing was. He had no memory of it. He kept saying to me "I said that?" I couldn't really go to so-and-so because he was let go right after he supposedly finished that assignment.
People with bad memory like that scare the hell out of me. From my experience, most of them are not aware that they have bad memory. There is nothing scarier than someone with a lot of confidence in his words, has bad memory, and is not aware that he is forgetful.
Luckily for me regarding the incident I talked about in the OP, there was actually a paper trail. Once my boss found it, he apologized to me, although he kept insisting that our conversation never happened.
In the case with the calculations yesterday, I decided it wasn't worth it to have a he-said-he-said argument with the guy and just went ahead and redo the calculations.
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