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In Seattle we'd find you friendly people frickin annoying :-P Thats the truth. We literally hate happy friendly people who start talking to random strangers. Not done here.
Hell I'm introverted to the bone, and even I find people in OR/WA (and really America as a whole, to a slightly lesser degree) extremely unfriendly. Nobody really gives a crap about anyone but themselves here, and it makes me mad! People will literally scowl at you if you say hi or hold the door for them here. If you try to make small talk with your co-workers to make the day a little more bearable they will just ignore everything you say.
And if you bring any of this up to a local, they will just say "well maybe you're just not likable" or "People are like that everywhere". They will always take the side of the other person no matter what. You are expected to be happy about being treated like garbage; just like a slave and if you aren't you are uppity or "entitled" as they like to say nowadays. That mentality has not gone away.
I always thought people were relatively nice here because I have a little "circle" I'm part of, but once I grew up and started working and renting I realized the true colors of the people here. And from what I've heard, it's a social disease that affects pretty much the whole country now.
It goes beyond merely "respecting people's boundaries", most people really are cold and snotty here.
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In Seattle we'd find you friendly people frickin annoying :-P Thats the truth. We literally hate happy friendly people who start talking to random strangers. Not done here.
In the big city there is a certain breed-the leech that walks around on two legs. They tend to be anonymous because of the sheer mass of people in a large city. After you get burned a few times, you become wary.
I agree with you. Americans just have this "Oh I'm so busy, I'm better than you, quit wasting my time and get out of my face. Have a nice day!" attitude. It's PC to say people are like that everywhere in the world, but I strongly disagree because all the evidence I've seen proves otherwise.
Not EVERYONE here is like that, but I'd say 80 to 90 percent of people are. If you are sentimental, sensitive or free-thinking you will be a loner here because people will shut you down if you speak your mind.
In Seattle we'd find you friendly people frickin annoying :-P Thats the truth. We literally hate happy friendly people who start talking to random strangers. Not done here.
Largely the same in the Bay Area. I've lived in San Diego a long time and still get a bit unnerved when so random starts talking to me. traveling the country as I've done over the last month...wow!
Hell I'm introverted to the bone, and even I find people in OR/WA (and really America as a whole, to a slightly lesser degree) extremely unfriendly. Nobody really gives a crap about anyone but themselves here, and it makes me mad! People will literally scowl at you if you say hi or hold the door for them here. If you try to make small talk with your co-workers to make the day a little more bearable they will just ignore everything you say.
And if you bring any of this up to a local, they will just say "well maybe you're just not likable" or "People are like that everywhere". They will always take the side of the other person no matter what. You are expected to be happy about being treated like garbage; just like a slave and if you aren't you are uppity or "entitled" as they like to say nowadays. That mentality has not gone away.
That's perhaps what irritates me the most. You see that on these forums ALL THE TIME. Always you, never them.
I agree with mini apples assessments but honestly I see all of those as a pretty major positive. But then she would expect that, me being a typical morally righteous unfriendly Seattlite LOL I think it has to do if you were born here like I was. Its just how things are. We like order, precision. Very British or northern european I would say. Small talk and smiling are useless time wasters. And I have to say it DOES make me uncomfortable if people I dont know hold a door open or say hello hehe.
Well, needless to say that here in Brazil most people love to talk to strangers. In fact this concept of strangers is probably very different in Brazil. No one is "stranger" enough for we not talk to.
In fact is a lot easier to be ignored for someone who we already talked to a couple times and didn't find much affinity than for someone we never talked to.
I work with Tourism and foreigners use to have a reputation for being extremely unpolite. In fact, in my last work, foreigners about never used to say even "Good Morning".
Quality of service in Brazil is substantially lower in places like hotels and restaurants, but with this attitude they get the worst. Tourists complain a lot about this in Brazil but as I've notice they will keep getting they worst of the worst if continuing to have this uncivilized behavior.
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I agree with mini apples assessments but honestly I see all of those as a pretty major positive. But then she would expect that, me being a typical morally righteous unfriendly Seattlite LOL I think it has to do if you were born here like I was. Its just how things are. We like order, precision. Very British or northern european I would say. Small talk and smiling are useless time wasters. And I have to say it DOES make me uncomfortable if people I dont know hold a door open or say hello hehe.
Like I said earlier, I am largely in agreement with you all being a Bay Area native myself, we are largely the same way. I can say that when I was in Texas, Kentucky and Virginia, I always wondered if people were up to something when they started to get all chummy with me.
Like I said earlier, I am largely in agreement with you all being a Bay Area native myself, we are largely the same way. I can say that when I was in Texas, Kentucky and Virginia, I always wondered if people were up to something when they started to get all chummy with me.
I know right? They all think Im terribly formal and proper or something when I go out there heh. Formal, unapproachable.
I know right? They all think Im terribly formal and proper or something when I go out there heh. Formal, unapproachable.
Yep, I was told that I'm polite but distant LOL
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