Originally Posted by kettlepot

It really helps to know where you would work. As a senior quality manager, I'm thinking you might land a job in Sorrento Valley, Torrey Pines, Miramar, Kearney Mesa Area, or maybe South Bay near the border. That's a wide geographic dispersion.

Problem is your goals are mutually exclusive. It would help if you prioritized them, put in a budget range, and then identified what kind of housing, schools, and walkability you would be willing to settle for. Unless you have millions, you

Originally Posted by jessxwrites89

#2 says it all. Her boyfriend is a classic Narcissist. This is the start of Narcissistic abuse! Since dad was a Narcissist, she is young and can't recognize the behaviour, so she runs after it. I have a NParent and I didn't realize my patterns until last year, at the age of 30.

Originally Posted by phonelady61

Oh thank you Jesus . Im so happy for you and her both . This is the first step to moving on .

Originally Posted by nicholas_n

I second this. It's clear that he doesn't have any respect whatsoever for authority anyway, but the gang connections make this situation infinitely more dangerous. I'm not sure how to get through to your daughter, OP, but you need to get your family out as soon as possible. Like today if at all feasible.

Originally Posted by phonelady61

Then your best option is to move out of chicago or illnois period . dont hesitate move now . Put the house up for sale whatever you gotta do , do it . This could very well be your daughter's life and sanity . Just move and dont let anyone know where you moved to .