Husband Lunch With Female CoWorker
Posted 12-31-2017 at 03:35 PM by hotmama7171
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Originally Posted by animalcrazy
I totally get where you're coming from. He was wrong to dictate to you who your friends can and can not be. Just as the same applies to you. Look, we can not help who we are attracted too intellectually. I have an 80 year old male friend as well as those in our age group. I think the issue is more about trust for you and him. Once you figure that out, things will be better. He did not foster that trust by going behind your back to have a lunch with his coworker, but what was he supposed to do? Call you up before lunch and say I'm having lunch with a lesbian coworker? Okay, that sounds funny. Sorry, I'm snickering now. 
Trust is a difficult thing to rebuild after someone destroys it. My husband did that to me with some half truths that were just about life more then anything else. Maybe you could have taken the high road about him having lunch with his lesbian coworker by telling him that what he did was a nice thing?
Dear one, he's not ready to give up his marriage because of this one incident. He's not happy and I suspect it's been going on for quite awhile. I know it was for me. There were times I would lie next to him in bed at night and just cry myself to sleep. I didn't want our marriage to end but I was in love with someone that didn't exist anymore. I firmly believe that he was going through male menopause.
It was a rough road but we found our way back. We've been married for over 30 years now. If your husband is in his middle to late 40's he may be going through male menopause. Nothing will make him happy for awhile except patience and understanding. It's a rough phase.
Trust is a difficult thing to rebuild after someone destroys it. My husband did that to me with some half truths that were just about life more then anything else. Maybe you could have taken the high road about him having lunch with his lesbian coworker by telling him that what he did was a nice thing?
Dear one, he's not ready to give up his marriage because of this one incident. He's not happy and I suspect it's been going on for quite awhile. I know it was for me. There were times I would lie next to him in bed at night and just cry myself to sleep. I didn't want our marriage to end but I was in love with someone that didn't exist anymore. I firmly believe that he was going through male menopause.
It was a rough road but we found our way back. We've been married for over 30 years now. If your husband is in his middle to late 40's he may be going through male menopause. Nothing will make him happy for awhile except patience and understanding. It's a rough phase.
I did not realize male menopause was a real thing. Tell me more about that. I really have thought he is bipolar because he will be like a roller coaster. I am having early menopause symptoms but they don't make me unhappy with my life or want another man. Mainly I just get emotional feeling and weepy and then it goes away. I find if I eat food with soy it helps.
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