A Whole New Dilemma

Originally Posted by Shallow Hal

I dunno know. The 55+ plus communities seem like a big rip off to me. Those houses are very small, close together, no trees and full of old people. Even tho I am an 'old people' I don't want to solely hang out with them.

IMO, I would rather buy a modest ranch without a huge HOA fee hanging over me every month. Pay for your own lawn care. You could do meet up for book clubs, community center for pickle ball, bingo, senior center for free etc. Why pay that monthly fee for those amenities you could get for free. Frankly I would never use the pool because I have had body issues since a teenagery and just feel that for me, that ship has sailed. (Hey, give me a break, I grew up with Twiggy as a role model. That ruined me for life. LOL)

Caring for your husband as you have is admirable but no longer sustainable. You are being very unfair to yourself. Figure out what works best for your needs too. So you can give some time to his needs but no longer at this soul crushing/physically demanding/emotionallly draining level.