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Aren't there rules against such things at your job? I'd inform a manager/higher up to tell this person to stop bothering you. I guess if you live in the bible belt, though, it's possible nobody sees anything wrong with what she's doing
On the plus side, I suppose you could sell all the books and dvds for a little extra change on the side.
because she asked me one day about my beliefs because I never talk about church (so I told her) and she started to cry and is now trying to save me.
Can we say inappropriate?
I mean, that is none of her business and I would never criticize her beliefs to her and try to convert her.
ugh *yes I live in the bible belt*
Addressing the bold first: If you didn't want it to be her business you should've told her so when she asked you.
Addressing the continuing problem: What I would do, is tell her "I'm going to need for you to please stop imposing religion on me, particularly in the workplace."
If she continues, report her to your boss or Human Resources. Harrassment in the workplace is against the law, and religious prostheletizing falls into that category.
Addressing the bold first: If you didn't want it to be her business you should've told her so when she asked you.
I know this is true but I just didn't know how to answer her where it wouldn't come off in a bad light "I don't think that is your business"--because I genuinely like the lady in every other aspect.
My manager also always talks about church, asks me if I go, invites me to go with her, and proceeds to say "I didn't see you there last Sunday" and etc.
I really need to get out of the area
See, I can be really wicked when it comes to stuff like that. If gently telling her to stop doesn't work, I'd just thank her for the junk, and then not only would I sell it as others suggested, I'd use the money for something truly heretical or hedonistic.
Ugh, how annoying. I am forced to go to church every Sunday. My parents were both raised in the Bible Belt (Alabama) so church was always a major part of our family. I hated every moment of church.
I think it's time you relocated, and sold the religious junk on Ebay.
1): Sit her down, and tell her, quite sincerely, while looking directly into her eyes to "engage" here so she can't deflect and look away, that her beliefs, no matter how sincere and convinced she is, do not "resonate" with you, that in fact you've explored them at various levels in the past, and that when you did, they simply didn't "fit" with your well-thought out philosophies.
You may have to mention that you wouldn't dream of forcing your ideas on others, in case she then responds "Well, what are your philosophies?" They do receive ideological training after all, to blurt out very simplistic counter-arguments. Do not go there.
"I was taught to respect others' privacy in matters of spirituality!" you can say. "We should all respect people's personal and private ideals, don't you agree?"
Remind her that you are now completely happy and confident with your personal life philosophies, even absent God, and even absent some all-knowing truth, which, obviously, none of us can truly know, right? Then patronizingly reach over and pat her hand as you smile with a slightly sympathetic look on your visage. You know, like they do to us?
Or, 2): you could tell her that you did look very thoughtfully at the first "batch" of propaganda (ooopsss. No, don't use that word.. Say, "resources".) she gave you, and "thank you for your thoughtful concerns" but that it really is not a philosophical "fit" for you.
In fact, you might kind of humorously mention that after you read it, you had to go puke. (Nahhh, you'd better leave that part out too...)
And then, produce all of them, with the appearance of them having been thumbed through, the DVD suitably scratched up, with some peanut butter smeared on it, and mention that some others might find this of use or interest. If she says "Oh no, please keep them..." you could then move them towards your waste basket, saying "Well. in that case...".
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