Most native Atlantians have moved away and took the southern hospitality with them (Savannah: crime, best)

[DJDeadParrot]

Originally Posted by AcidSnake

It was probably just some sort of public relations gimmick from back in the day that kinda took on a life of its own.

Not far off; I think it had to do with a city versus country dichotomy, where the agrarian South was home to the people that worked in the clean open air of the country, and the industrial North was where people worked in dingy factories in sooty cities.

I think it was also rooted in a contrast with the stereotype of the dour and sullen New England descendant of Puritans who are so possessed of hard work and stern moralism that they won't ever stop and afford themselves a moment to enjoy life

[kayoticworld]

Native Atlantan here.......this whole tread is bordering silly and rooted in old stereotypical undertones. I won't even bother debating some of the stuff stated here, because when it’s all said and done.....what's the point? People will be people. Being southern (Atlantan/black/white/gay or anything as a matter of fact) is not a monolithic experience nor does having "southern hospitality" paint a complete picture of one person, group or experience. Some people are not meant to be artist, some people are not meant to paint. Put the brush and canvas away... I'll make it simple: You only get what you put out into the world!
Perfect examples.....it is also a well known stereotype that the French/ New Yorkers are rude. I've never had a problem in any place I've been because I don't travel with any preconceived notions on a group of people. There will always be the good, the bad, the indifferent, etc. I've had people go out there way to help me all over the world. Call it Karma, sincerity, a state of mind or having the common decency, the whole world seems to have “Southern Hospitality” in my perspective.

[AnsleyPark]

Originally Posted by kayoticworld

Native Atlantan here.......this whole tread is bordering silly and rooted in old stereotypical undertones. I won't even bother debating some of the stuff stated here, because when it’s all said and done.....what's the point? People will be people. Being southern (Atlantan/black/white/gay or anything as a matter of fact) is not a monolithic experience nor does having "southern hospitality" paint a complete picture of one person, group or experience. Some people are not meant to be artist, some people are not meant to paint. Put the brush and canvas away... I'll make it simple: You only get what you put out into the world!
Perfect examples.....it is also a well known stereotype that the French/ New Yorkers are rude. I've never had a problem in any place I've been because I don't travel with any preconceived notions on a group of people. There will always be the good, the bad, the indifferent, etc. I've had people go out there way to help me all over the world. Call it Karma, sincerity, a state of mind or having the common decency, the whole world seems to have “Southern Hospitality” in my perspective.

Bingo! Thanks for posting.

[kayoticworld]

Btw.......some of the people you guys (see I didn't say Y'all) may assume are not from here could very well be from here. Almost no one believes I am from here because I don’t fit the mold/stereotype. Like someone else mentioned in this post, I know for a fact (because of Fb) a lot of the people I grew up with still live here.

[Newsboy]

Originally Posted by kayoticworld

Native Atlantan here.......this whole tread is bordering silly and rooted in old stereotypical undertones. I won't even bother debating some of the stuff stated here, because when it’s all said and done.....what's the point? People will be people. Being southern (Atlantan/black/white/gay or anything as a matter of fact) is not a monolithic experience nor does having "southern hospitality" paint a complete picture of one person, group or experience. Some people are not meant to be artist, some people are not meant to paint. Put the brush and canvas away... I'll make it simple: You only get what you put out into the world!
Perfect examples.....it is also a well known stereotype that the French/ New Yorkers are rude. I've never had a problem in any place I've been because I don't travel with any preconceived notions on a group of people. There will always be the good, the bad, the indifferent, etc. I've had people go out there way to help me all over the world. Call it Karma, sincerity, a state of mind or having the common decency, the whole world seems to have “Southern Hospitality” in my perspective.

That's all fine and good and I agree. What bothers me is when people try to argue that Southern "hospitality" isn't just fake and shallow, but is in fact sinister in some way. That's complete BS.

[arjay57]

The whole "southern hospitality" think is complete baloney. Why should I be expected to be any more or less friendly than anybody else?

And why should people in other parts of the country get a pass on being nice?

[Iconographer]

Originally Posted by arjay57

The whole "southern hospitality" think is complete baloney. Why should I be expected to be any more or less friendly than anybody else?

And why should people in other parts of the country get a pass on being nice?

OK, fine. But doesn't it bother you that such a concept has existed for so long when there is no basis in it?

[AnsleyPark]

Originally Posted by LovinDecatur

OK, fine. But doesn't it bother you that such a concept has existed for so long when there is no basis in it?

Oh, gosh, Lovin. Plenty of folks believe in plenty of things in which there is no basis other than faith in their existence. UFOs, Atlantis, the world's religions, good Republicans, and so on... (kidding on the last one!)

[JC84]

True, it makes me chuckle when people come to a 4 way stop and no one goes because they're all waving each other on. Up north people would be pushing to cross the interwar croon first. We so have much more polite (albeit slow) drivers

[Newsboy]

Originally Posted by AnsleyPark

Oh, gosh, Lovin. Plenty of folks believe in plenty of things in which there is no basis other than faith in their existence. UFOs, Atlantis, the world's religions, good Republicans, and so on... (kidding on the last one!)

Most all stereotypes are based on some FACT. And Southern Hospitality is most definitely based on historical FACT. People in the south didn't make this up; people from other parts of the country and world who visited the South did. So stop blaming Southerners for being nice!

Cities like Charleston, Savannah and New Orleans have been know for hundreds of years for their hospitality toward outsiders and strangers. Many other cities in the south as well. A lot of it is grounded in the nature of Scots-Irish immigrants and the planter class who settled the region. You took interest in your fellow man. You invited people into your home. You took care of those in need. Yes, these traits are natural to most human beings. But it was less likely in the crowded industrial cities of Europe, where people were widely judged on class, and the mass of European immigrants who flooded the cities of the Northeast during the 1800s brought that suspicion and sensibility with them.

Like I said before, I don't understand why people get so angry and derisive about this. Why not just let southern hospitality be what it is? It's not evil. It's not sinister. It's not some conspiracy to secretly win your trust and then stab you in the back or steal your baby.

Be glad it exists and return the favor.

And here's something else: If people aren't being nice to you, perhaps you should look in the mirror. Kindness is infectious. You have to give it to receive it.