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On Nov 2009 my father was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. My father passed away Sept 7 2010. When he was first diagnosed the doctors only gave him 4/5 months to live , the cancer had later spread to his liver, kidney, shoulders, hips and some bones. His last 3/4 months he could no longer walk bc of the cancer on his hips. When he was released from the hospital he longer got any better. One week later and he was never the same. Last 3 days of his life he really struggled and couldn't breathe, it didn't matter if he was laying down or sitting up. I didn't know he was dying, I thought he would get better. We sent him to the ER on Sept 7 and they told us he has a couple of days to live. Well it was at 6:50pm later that night when he passed on Sept 7 while my mom an myself were holding his hand and we were telling him, 'it's ok' we love you.. over and over again. And then he just gave up, his heart stopped. My daddy was only 63.. he hated himself so much for smoking and didn't realize how much he really wanted to enjoy life and that he really never lived that he should've. in 28 years he NEVER took a vacation nor he never took a sick day no matter how sick he was. He saved so much money but never had the time or chance to enjoy it.
Now my mom starts her battle again with Cancer, this time her modullary thyroid cancer spread to her spine.... and so we begin all over again.
My sincere condolences on the loss of your dad. I also truly hope that your mom doesn't suffer and can be survivor of her cancer.
My dear sil was diagnosed with lung cancer and she died within a year and a half. She was also a heavy smoker. The minute that they told her she had it, I laid down my smokes. I saw what she had to go through and it wasn't pretty! If people would only think for a minute about all the poisons that are in those cancer sticks, it might help them to quit. I sure wish I could get my husband to quit smoking now.
If "that" time comes for your Mom, please look into hospice care. They do miracles in keeping people comfortable. We used them for my mother and she was comfortable the last week of her life. They will come to your house if that's what you want, they have doctors who prescribed morphine for pain, and people who come sit with the patient, play music, etc. So sorry about your father.
On Nov 2009 my father was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. My father passed away Sept 7 2010. When he was first diagnosed the doctors only gave him 4/5 months to live , the cancer had later spread to his liver, kidney, shoulders, hips and some bones. His last 3/4 months he could no longer walk bc of the cancer on his hips. When he was released from the hospital he longer got any better. One week later and he was never the same. Last 3 days of his life he really struggled and couldn't breathe, it didn't matter if he was laying down or sitting up. I didn't know he was dying, I thought he would get better. We sent him to the ER on Sept 7 and they told us he has a couple of days to live. Well it was at 6:50pm later that night when he passed on Sept 7 while my mom an myself were holding his hand and we were telling him, 'it's ok' we love you.. over and over again. And then he just gave up, his heart stopped. My daddy was only 63.. he hated himself so much for smoking and didn't realize how much he really wanted to enjoy life and that he really never lived that he should've. in 28 years he NEVER took a vacation nor he never took a sick day no matter how sick he was. He saved so much money but never had the time or chance to enjoy it.
Now my mom starts her battle again with Cancer, this time her modullary thyroid cancer spread to her spine.... and so we begin all over again.
I'm sorry, I know what you are going through. Lost my dad 2/2006; FIL 3/2006; MIL diagnosed 2007 and hub with oral cancer. Almost every year we know someone diagnosed.
Where is your mom being treated? Am I reading your profile right it's in NJ? My hub is going to Philly; I'm very happy with his care. My dad was treated at Robert Wood.
You can try cancer compass for cancer specific sections. You'll be able to figure out what treatment your mom should be doing.
Thank you everyone !!! My parents live in NYC and she (my mom) is being treated at MSK on the east side. I live in NJ now. I'm NOT giving up on my mom. She has beat breast cancer bf and I refuse to let her give up now. She has always been a fighter and now is not the time to stop fighting. I wish everyone luck with this terrible disease.
On Nov 2009 my father was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. My father passed away Sept 7 2010. When he was first diagnosed the doctors only gave him 4/5 months to live , the cancer had later spread to his liver, kidney, shoulders, hips and some bones. His last 3/4 months he could no longer walk bc of the cancer on his hips. When he was released from the hospital he longer got any better. One week later and he was never the same. Last 3 days of his life he really struggled and couldn't breathe, it didn't matter if he was laying down or sitting up. I didn't know he was dying, I thought he would get better. We sent him to the ER on Sept 7 and they told us he has a couple of days to live. Well it was at 6:50pm later that night when he passed on Sept 7 while my mom an myself were holding his hand and we were telling him, 'it's ok' we love you.. over and over again. And then he just gave up, his heart stopped. My daddy was only 63.. he hated himself so much for smoking and didn't realize how much he really wanted to enjoy life and that he really never lived that he should've. in 28 years he NEVER took a vacation nor he never took a sick day no matter how sick he was. He saved so much money but never had the time or chance to enjoy it.
Now my mom starts her battle again with Cancer, this time her modullary thyroid cancer spread to her spine.... and so we begin all over again.
My condolences. My wife had breast cancer which turned out to have spread. She got progressively worse after Christmas of 2007 and then went from being able to drive on a Friday to passing on a Wednesday. I say this because I too hoped she would get better and was a bit in denial so that's natural in my opinion and once it reaches critical mass in a key area it can cause rapid deterioration.
Hope things go well for your mother, best wishes, I understand the gravity of the situation once it has spread.
My condolences for your loss. Contact hospice care now and talk with them about the possibility of their services. They are truly Angels on earth. They have comforted several of my family members through their final journey in life. I am a big donor/supporter to this wonderful organization. Blessings to you and your family.
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