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..... I just live every day as if it could be my last. I advise you to do the same. I don't want to give cancer any more of my time than I have to.
This makes terrific sense. That's the attitude I took when I tried to recover from cancer and the effects of radiation and chemo. Even folks who have never had cancer don't get guarantees as to the length of their life.
Hang in there, mvintar... don't give cancer any more of a hold on you than it already had. You take one day at a time and act like that's the last day of your life. Appreciate the small things. Bask in the comfort you get from listening to your cats purr.
SD4020 is right. Some days we're the statue but those other days - when we're the pigeon - watch out world!
Cancer sobered me up to the notion that yes, I could die. While there are those who wish I would, I refuse to live in fear. When it is my time, it is my time.
It is nice that the cancer in in the past, nothing but a memory. Just a footnote in my life. It is something a make jokes about, it is something that will not get any respect.
Cancer sobered me up to the notion that yes, I could die. While there are those who wish I would, I refuse to live in fear. When it is my time, it is my time.
It is nice that the cancer in in the past, nothing but a memory. Just a footnote in my life. It is something a make jokes about, it is something that will not get any respect.
My husband, as most of you know has just finished 4 months of radiation, 5 days a week, for 2 different, unrelated cancers. They just happen to have been found about the same time. He knows he will never be 100%what he was. He gets tied easier and doesn't have the strength he once did. He also is a little more forgetful (of course part of that is age and part is needing a hearing aide) but most is cancer related. As for me, luckily it has been 50 years so I rarely even think about the cancer days. We just accept we will do the best with our lives, we try to do a lot of volunteer work and we accept that life will go on, with or without us.
My husband, as most of you know has just finished 4 months of radiation, 5 days a week, for 2 different, unrelated cancers. They just happen to have been found about the same time. He knows he will never be 100%what he was. He gets tied easier and doesn't have the strength he once did. He also is a little more forgetful (of course part of that is age and part is needing a hearing aide) but most is cancer related. As for me, luckily it has been 50 years so I rarely even think about the cancer days. We just accept we will do the best with our lives, we try to do a lot of volunteer work and we accept that life will go on, with or without us.
Nita
Yup. Feeling sorry about myself and worry about it doesn't do a damn bit a good. If someone isn't willing to accept that fact or learn to cope, there isn't much more I or anyone else and do to help them.
While you can read the "China Syndrome" all you want, it isn't going to offer you any solutions. Neither will starting thread after thread with the same recurring theme. I know I will never be the same as I was before cancer.
I think sometimes people forget when they interact with me that I also have MS, and it's actually not always easy to determine if my difficulties are because of the chemo, the MS, or my age (62). It's really overwhelming sometimes, but I'm feeling much better than when I originally posted my concerns. Business has picked up and I've got lots of new, good students, including theory tutoring which is a lot of fun. My books are selling, I have friends who call me -- though my friends are all in other states or other countries. Skype is marvelous. I also bought a lot of new clothes, makeup and scent, had my hair done, facial, mani/pedi. I highly recommend this, especially, I think, post-chemo. I feel great.
Somebody said something about "you reap what you sew." It's sow! And agnostic, is a-g-n-o-s-t-i-c. I must confess, I have a real, inate prejudice against indifference to langugage. I think appreciation and respect for language is concomitant to intelligence; if you can't write well, you probably can't think well. Right or wrong, people are judged by their use of language. Experience has fortified this prejudice, if you will. I just have a hard time taking people seriously who can't spell, use poor grammar, etc. It's a failing on my part, no doubt.
Although I agree with you about irritating words, I think the digital age is to blame. We get so used to using spell-checker that we forget to actually look at what we typed. Sow and sew are both "good" words to spell-checkers. Then the smart phones did further damage: u, LOL, BRB, etc. It's creeping into computer use when space is not a problem.
if you can't write well, you probably can't think well. Right or wrong, people are judged by their use of language.
Let us also remember that there are dyslexics and dysgraphics out here who think extremely well, perhaps better than the average population, who just have difficulty putting the write words into the write order. (Yes, I know it should be "right" )
Although I agree with you about irritating words, I think the digital age is to blame. We get so used to using spell-checker that we forget to actually look at what we typed. Sow and sew are both "good" words to spell-checkers. Then the smart phones did further damage: u, LOL, BRB, etc. It's creeping into computer use when space is not a problem.
Sorry to go off topic, back to thread topic!
Along those same lines... Expose a weakness and others are more than willing to exploit it.
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Let us also remember that there are dyslexics and dysgraphics out here who think extremely well, perhaps better than the average population, who just have difficulty putting the write words into the write order. (Yes, I know it should be "right" )
Yup. Some of us, despite our best efforts, manage to butcher the english language. It is the second most difficult language to learn.
Poor grammar is not always a measure of intelligence.
And, I will leave this post with this thought: when I was sick, I didn't want to be treated any differently because I had cancer. If I were become ill again, I would have that same expectation. As long as I have access to whatever within reason and an ability to be functional I would be on it. While I might talk about, it would not be for sympathy. It anything it would be a means of paying it forward, nothing more than that.
Let us also remember that there are dyslexics and dysgraphics out here who think extremely well, perhaps better than the average population, who just have difficulty putting the write words into the write order. (Yes, I know it should be "right" )
Thanks so much: I am dyslexic and I managed to graduate from college. I am also, thought, my many to be pretty intelligent, and I have learned to laugh off my many spelling errors. it is a joke among my family and many of my friends. The one thing I will never do, is read aloud for any reason...Not only do I not read well, I twist words around, I substitute words that are not even there and I mispronounce words, but I have gotten by pretty well including, believe it or not, writing a weekly column for our newspaper in No CA for 5 years. Of course, I wrote the column and my husband, a jounelism major, did the proofing. The same with all the times I have been publicity chairperson for organizations, I write, he proofs and all goes well. :think
Now that I have mentioned all this, I really think the poster who brought the subject of spelling up, is totally off base, what does that have to do with fear of cancer returning. I, for one, will not get back on track....
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