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I think you made the right decision. It's better that he hears this from you in person than from a relative who doesn't necessarily know what's going on, which would cause more stress....which neither you nor he need right now. All the best to you during your treatment!
I think you made the right decision. It's better that he hears this from you in person than from a relative who doesn't necessarily know what's going on, which would cause more stress....which neither you nor he need right now. All the best to you during your treatment!
Thank you for the support. Tried repping ya but have to spread it around. My dad and I are very close but unfortunately live far apart. When I had my breast cancer the first time, I told him after the surgery which was fairly quick after the diagnosis. He was very upset and this was 15 years ago. Can't imagine how he will take this bit of news.
At least I can tell him that I sought medical attention at the first sign so it isn't as bad as it could be. He thinks I ignore doctors like my mom did. She was in her 20s and was in denial. It wasn't until she was in terrible pain that she went. Radical mastectomy in the 1960's wasn't pretty. Cancer never killed her although it came back in the other breast in her 40s. A pulmonary embolism after recovering from a car accident. Tragic.
I'm sitting here cooking and having a glass of wine. At least the bad metallic taste hasn't hit me yet or the puke monster. Enjoying it while I can, lol.
@ siggy ~~~~ I think waiting until the right time to tell your dad or anyone is perfectly ok. So sorry that it will probably upset him, but he is a father and he'll definitely care deeply and his love for you will deepen with each word you tell him.
Take care of yourself and know that many of us have to drink a bit of wine to build our spirits. I'll be thinking of you!
siggy, sorry for this turn of events. I'm from the school of thought that says there is nothing to be gained on either part by sharing bad news until absolutely necessary.
I think you can wait until your Dad returns from his trip. Meantime, good thoughts coming your way. Hang in there.
Siggy, I'm sorry you have cancer again. As for telling your Dad, I think you are right to wait. My Mom was ill, and died never knowing I was stage IV. I was afraid telling her would kill her.
Facing ones own death is a major traumatic event in anyone's life. I think it is important for the cancer patients well being to talk someone about it, not necessarily everyone. Perhaps the man the OP described doesn't have any other friends, family or acquaintances he can talk to outside of work. For many people their work relationships are there whole lives. I would certainly try and be compassionate and lend an ear if someone wanted to talk about it to me, to the degree I could do so and still do my job.
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