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If it were me or my father, I would ask for hospice care. Pain control is a blessing.
Yes, this. I wish we had requested hospice care much earlier than we did for my mother. Circumstances were what they were, though. Beyond sad to have lost her, but we all knew it was time.
I know your FIL is probably very scared, but fear is one thing; fear + PAIN is a whole different matter.
Hospital is sending him home tomorrow. He told his caregiver today "hand me my shoes; I want to go home!" so he's ready!
He has Stage 4 bladder cancer and it may be worse. The tumor is massive according to the doctors. Nothing more they can do.
We've arranged for Hospice to come to his home as needed. He's a very tough man so I'm sure he will want to forego any morphine until the last possible minute. We want him to enjoy the time he has left.
Thanks for all the replies; it has been a journey over the past 8 years with him but we made it this far. He is our only parent left.
He also has caregivers who take shifts and are angels
Hospital is sending him home tomorrow. He told his caregiver today "hand me my shoes; I want to go home!" so he's ready!
He has Stage 4 bladder cancer and it may be worse. The tumor is massive according to the doctors. Nothing more they can do.
We've arranged for Hospice to come to his home as needed. He's a very tough man so I'm sure he will want to forego any morphine until the last possible minute. We want him to enjoy the time he has left.
Thanks for all the replies; it has been a journey over the past 8 years with him but we made it this far. He is our only parent left.
He also has caregivers who take shifts and are angels
He sounds like a remarkable man. You are making the right decisions, as difficult as it is.
There should be rules regarding people who exceed the average life expectancy for their gender. Give the patient pain medicine so that their last days end peacefully. That is the humanist way of thinking.
Hospital is sending him home tomorrow. He told his caregiver today "hand me my shoes; I want to go home!" so he's ready!
He has Stage 4 bladder cancer and it may be worse. The tumor is massive according to the doctors. Nothing more they can do.
We've arranged for Hospice to come to his home as needed. He's a very tough man so I'm sure he will want to forego any morphine until the last possible minute. We want him to enjoy the time he has left.
Thanks for all the replies; it has been a journey over the past 8 years with him but we made it this far. He is our only parent left.
He also has caregivers who take shifts and are angels
Prayers to you and your family. Keep us informed. I know this is hard on all of you. Thank goodness he has good help and a wonderful family behind him.
My father at 91 was found to have bladder cancer when he went in for an artery repair. He let them do some kind of bladder scrape (brother's words) and died from the procedure. Dad said just before he died that he wished he had never had anything done.
There should be rules regarding people who exceed the average life expectancy for their gender. Give the patient pain medicine so that their last days end peacefully. That is the humanist way of thinking.
what the H? Are you saying, someone who reaches 75, if life expectancy is 72 and has cancer or breaks a hip, they should be given pain meds, that is all? Or am I misunderstanding what you are saying? I don't think we can decide when it is time to stop treating. We are not Gods. I do think we should all be aware of what is involved in any type of treatment. It must then be up to each to decide what choices need to be made or should be made
Hopefully, he recovers to live to 100 but be proactive and make sure he has someone
as POA (power of attorney), and POD (payable on death) names on his accounts.
what the H? Are you saying, someone who reaches 75, if life expectancy is 72 and has cancer or breaks a hip, they should be given pain meds, that is all? Or am I misunderstanding what you are saying? I don't think we can decide when it is time to stop treating. We are not Gods. I do think we should all be aware of what is involved in any type of treatment. It must then be up to each to decide what choices need to be made or should be made
jeezo Im nearly 70 and have no plans to leave this earth for a while yet.. I dont feel old at all, can do everything that needs done for myself without help.. maybe if I was a lot older I wouldnt want to be kept alive longer if I was suffering but in this day and age 70s arent old and no one has the right to say when someone else should be left to die.. as you say were not god... I wonder if that same poster would say yes to not trying to save their parent..
My father at 91 was found to have bladder cancer when he went in for an artery repair. He let them do some kind of bladder scrape (brother's words) and died from the procedure. Dad said just before he died that he wished he had never had anything done.
Perhaps hospice is needed?
I think if I reached that age Id rather be left in peace with pain relief than go through such procedures.. sometimes I wonder if doctors are doing research type work on older bodies, lets hope not though..I think it should be up to the patient to say if treatments are to be stopped..
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Update on my FIL
