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My GIrl friend has 2 kids and is expecting a third about 20 weeks in. I am having these down moments every so often thinking about what would happen with her the kids and her baby daddy of the newest baby. I love this girl. I am asking anyone to help give me advice on what I can do to keep these thoughts out of my head and be the man I should be for the kids and my gf.
Tough to give advice when none of us know you, your girlfriend, her relationship with the biological father, your history together, etc.
BUT - I would say you really need to communicate with your girlfriend about your concerns and how you both are looking at the future together. Plan a time that you 2 can sit down and go over both of your expectations and what you are looking for.
3 kids 3 baby daddy's dated her for 6 months she's been pregnant for 7 months I have known her for almost a year the kids are 14 months and 2 years 3 months and pregnant 7 months. The reason I am posting this is bc I need advice on how to deal with the kids and her being pregnant and all 3 baby daddies etc. I want to be a good role model for the kids and a good partner to my gf but it's the thought of all that stuff hitting me at once and it's stressing me and making me have depressed thoughts about everything.
The guy is trying to be a role model for children and you tell him to run?
If anything our society needs more people like him than less.
Jake - no one is here is probably going to be able to give you 100% effective advice on how to keep these concerns out of your head. You need to talk this through with your girlfriend.
Don't let the stress get you down. Communication is key and if you can't have good relationships with the other fathers' that's ok too - you can't control everything and that's ok. Kids are tough for everyone but if you can find a way to balance a job and parental responsibilities with the others involved, coordination/trust is going to be key.
Take it one day at a time, find some peer support or family support and talk often with your girlfriend about what is working/not working.
As far as advice on this forum - take it with a grain of salt. No one is looking out for #1 like you will.
For your own well-being, if you are having "down" moments like feeling really depressed and hopeless, seek out support from a church and/or one of the following:
Good luck and keep your head up. Children are a blessing. They are also expensive and difficult. But they are a blessing and you should try to celebrate the little things. It can always be worse and you have a big responsibility, but also a huge opportunity in front of you. There is not much in life more rewarding than being a supportive parent.
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