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My husband and I were discussing discipline with our toddlers, and finding that it may help him to read a book that discusses how to set boundaries while still giving a loving environment to our son. My husband is a strong Christian, and knowing there are many christian-based family books out there, I was hoping someone could recommend some to us. Our son is a good child...most of the time...but is a master manipulator, if you don't set boundaries!!
Our son is a good child...most of the time...but is a master manipulator, if you don't set boundaries!!
That just means he's smart and normal. At that age you teach them no and start time outs, 2 minutes max with a timer so they can see the time move. Other than that lots of love and positive reinforcement for the behaviors you want them to continue. Another tip: don't let them see you when the bad thing they do makes you laugh, it totally ruins your credibilty when you say no as you are giggling.
There a book by James Dobson that my wife read and liked. I think it was called "Bringing Up Boys". Hope that helps!
I also liked Dobson's approach a lot. He wrote another book entitled, The Strong-Willed Child which was very good IMO>
Sidenote: When my son was about five or six, we had instituted at the suggestion of one of Dobson's books, an "attitude chart." The concept worked quite well, so well in fact that my young son demanded that I provide him with a copy of Dr. Dobson's address because he kept inisisting that "he was gonna write that man a letter!" (giving him a piece of his mind!)You can thus see why I needed Dobson! LOL!
That just means he's smart and normal. At that age you teach them no and start time outs, 2 minutes max with a timer so they can see the time move. Other than that lots of love and positive reinforcement for the behaviors you want them to continue. Another tip: don't let them see you when the bad thing they do makes you laugh, it totally ruins your credibilty when you say no as you are giggling.
My four learned real quick that they could make me laugh, and always came up with something really cute to say Toddlers are so hard to discipline, they just don't get it..They are curious and have more energy than any adult who tries to keep up the chase Like Irish said, lots of love and reinforcement when they please you, and a little time out when they don't..My children got the fear in them if I spoke in a different tone when they were not minding
I have a 4 year old girl, a 2 year old boy, and an 11 month old girl. I would be very interested to see more suggestions on books! My kids are great, but they are a handful. My four year old especially is a little red-head, with that famous red-head temper. She is also frighteningly smart, so she knows how to "work" her daddy. Of course, she does get disciplined, and generally is a sweet-spirited little thing, but still....
I wish I would have known about the book "The Strong Willed Child" when my daughter was growing up. By the time I found out about the book, it was a little too late .
Of my 4 kids, my daughter has ALWAYS been the most stubborn! When she would start to do something bad I would say "If you do it, you're going to get a spanking!" She would turn around and say "Does that mean if I just go ahead and let you spank me, I can go ahead and do it?" UGH! She was impossible!
I wish I would have known about the book "The Strong Willed Child" when my daughter was growing up. By the time I found out about the book, it was a little too late .
Of my 4 kids, my daughter has ALWAYS been the most stubborn! When she would start to do something bad I would say "If you do it, you're going to get a spanking!" She would turn around and say "Does that mean if I just go ahead and let you spank me, I can go ahead and do it?" UGH! She was impossible!
Oh you are supposed to READ that book?!? I thought you were supposed to hit them over the head with it until their will was broken!
I, too, hear great things about Dobson's approach. I'm a Christian and have found the book What to Expect During the Toddler Years very helpful. It's not Christian, but it has good advice. I'm also reading The Shaping of a Christian Family by Elisabeth Elliot. It's not neccessarily geared for toddlers, but it does speak to having a plan and overall purpose in your family. I thought it would be good to establish this before he grows out of the toddler stage.
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James Dobson --low popularity with my young son!
You can thus see why I needed Dobson! LOL!
Toddlers are so hard to discipline, they just don't get it..They are curious and have more energy than any adult who tries to keep up the chase
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