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I was just wondering what the christian perspective would be for a guy experiencing a burnout.
No desire to pray, no desire even to wake up in the mornings. He says he feels like all his fuses have been burn,and is not able to do anything.
Even after 2 years of unemployment and resting, I saw no healing or change in his life pattern.
He has taken up some smaller tasks along the way which encouraged him for a few weeks, but very soon he fell again in the same pattern.
It seems to be a spiritual thing, since every time he genuinely tries (to find a job, or do something good), he gets discouraged financially or just all the doors close.
If you ask him if there's anything he wants to do, (you know, just to help), he says he does not know.
I've seen how this man, passionate for God, and in love with creating his own music, went down the slope of not only a mental, and physical, but also a spiritual burnout.
He's still a very friendly guy, noone seems to notice that, but he has suffered deep wounds,and from conversations what seems clear is that he thinks about dying often.
He says he does not know anymore what purpose his life has.
We pray with him, and for him, but there's only this much we can do.
Positive advise will only leave him unresponding, and staring or gazing in the distance, as being far away the moment you speak these words.
We believe he is saved,and he believes in God, but takes no joy in reading the bible or praying.
Sometimes he goes to church, but even there he just stares and sits. As if he lost all his desire to worship God.
He says sometimes he talks to God... in private. but also says that if God knows why he's going through this, He will also know what to do to get him out; in a way almost as he does not care if God took him out or not...
He's been like that for many years now, a spiritual vegetable;and I feel greatly sorry for him.. I wished I could help him somehow...
Taking him out to eat (giving him a different type of food) seems to help some.
Taking him to an amusement park seems like to help him cheer up a while, but unfortunately those moments don't stay.
It's a matter of a few weeks to find him in the old pattern again...
I know someone like that, ironically! It is not easy to get out of that funk. They need to have a sense of purpose, something larger than themselves -- a challenge, a project. Something that takes the focus off of themselves. That keeps them busy. They need to take advantage of what they do HAVE -- eg., maybe he's unattached? Young? A man of few needs?...and work from there.
For example, what are his talents/skills? Could he parlay those into doing some missions work? Could he go teach English in China? Could he help our ever-growing elderly population? There is so much a single, unattached person can do, its just a matter of discovering that.
Sounds like He is really depressed. Personally I would say, he is out of work because God wants Him to be, this is a chance for Him to be drawn closer to God or maybe God wants to toughen him up for whatever God has planned for him. Either way it is God's will. It is disconcerting when a Christian has no desire to read their bible or pray. It sounds to me like he is being demon oppressed. Those moods you are describing are not of God.
I know you love your friend but all you can do is pray and encourage him, it is really up to him. Convince him that he needs to try harder in reading his bible and praying; they are spiritual nourishment and he is malnutritioned. He is spiritually starving himself.
Tell him that life is what it is and to try hard every day because that is how you overcome a hard life and quit getting wrapped up in all the false notions that he has to read the bible and pray like religion expects him too. Especially the degrading aspect that God just enjoyed planning his crap life as some kind of puppet show.
Tell him that life is what it is and to try hard every day because that is how you overcome a hard life and quit getting wrapped up in all the false notions that he has to read the bible and pray like religion expects him too. Especially the degrading aspect that God just enjoyed planning his crap life as some kind of puppet show.
Please just stick to your opinion of what you believe is right for his friend and leave it up to the OP to sort out what is scriptural; what is good...rather than your grandstanding....Thank you
Please just stick to your opinion of what you believe is right for his friend and leave it up to the OP to sort out what is scriptural; what is good...rather than your grandstanding....Thank you
I did stick to my opinion and posted it as I have a right to and let the OP decide who's comments he uses and who's he don't
I know someone like that, ironically! It is not easy to get out of that funk. They need to have a sense of purpose, something larger than themselves -- a challenge, a project. Something that takes the focus off of themselves. That keeps them busy. They need to take advantage of what they do HAVE -- eg., maybe he's unattached? Young? A man of few needs?...and work from there.
For example, what are his talents/skills? Could he parlay those into doing some missions work? Could he go teach English in China? Could he help our ever-growing elderly population? There is so much a single, unattached person can do, its just a matter of discovering that.
I totally agree. I started getting into a really bad funk almost a year ago and if it wasn't for my mom trying to do just this I don't know what would have happened to me. It really makes you realize just how precious your psychological health is though once you've began to climb out.
Also, as silly as this sounds, I don't know the circumstances that led to this but usually there's something I think that triggers this, just being reassured that he is loved is key. If someone/several people hurt your friend it may be a matter of how he is seeing the world around him. Not only having a project, which is vital, but feeling appreciated and accepted is important. If he doesn't even want to get out of the house, maybe beginning with positive socialization first before the project would be good, small steps and what not.
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