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Originally Posted by Pine to Vine
Even people in rural areas meet and fall in love. If a person has trouble dating, they should look at the mirror instead of the map.
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Eh, sometimes. But there are certainly places that are more difficult than others. Usually it's just a case of being the complete opposite of the type of person a city attracts so it feels overwhelmingly negative. Especially if you hit a slump as most people do (assuming they don't settle first).
Thus you create a self fulfilling prophecy and/or downward spiral.
Occasionally the deck will be stacked against you just from the number of available singles of a one gender or the other.
Seattle is an example of the perfect storm when it comes to problems with dating and making friends.
Most of the people from rural areas I know/knew followed one of a few specific paths.
1. Got lucky and made it work with the HS gf/bf. Ended up divorced in the end though.
2. Went to the big bad city for college and met their spouse there before moving back to the small town.
3. Joined the military and met someone overseas who came with them when they returned.
4. Their kids are friends with another kid who's parents get divorced and since they see each other so often they give dating a try.
Very few people, at least from the people I've known, in rural areas meet a stranger at the bar and end up together for longer than a night or two.
In other words the dynamic in rural areas is different than in the city.