Hey Coolhand, hello from a fellow Roman! I have lived here for 4 years now, and in Utica a couple years before that. I have spent most of my life in "upstate" NY. I grew up in Steuben County, and we lived so far in the boonies that I thought of Corning as "the city"; Elmira was "the Big City"! Yes, I was a naïve backwoods hick!
People in the rest of the country have no idea we exist. I was visiting my brother in Oregon a couple of years ago and we got chatting with a waitress, and told her we were from New York, and she was amazed as we regaled her with tales from our childhood about milking cows, building a treehouse, etc. I figure she had an excuse--she was quite young and hadn't traveled much, she said the furthest East she had ever been was Mt. Rushmore. But I lived in New Jersey for a few years, and I don't know what their excuse is as they BORDER on us and still don't know we exist! I tried to explain to folks I met in NJ that I was from "Western New York" and they thought I was talking about a town in New Jersey (right across the river from NYC) called West New York. The best I could get out of them was "Umm...is that somewhere near Syracuse?"
So anyway, I have found a creative outlet for expressing my frustration with this confusion of identity. Check this out:
UPSTATE PRIDE T-Shirts.