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When I posted the question, I am open minded So your point is well taken. We will consider all responses, this is just like a mini poll, but it will be a weighted poll.
Just have a question here, what's your suggestion for insurance? It could be comparable to car value.
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Originally Posted by sheena12
That's not true that a decent car needs to cost ten thousand dollars! Buy her a $5000 car for transportation. If you can afford it, pay cash.
That way you are not taking back the gift that you promised her. When she is employed at a full time job, she can trade in the $5000 car for one she likes better.
Just get her basic transportation.
I know you are not going to like this idea, but she did graduate from college and if she wants to "take a year off" and she has a college degree, she has accomplished something.
Try giving her a little space.
Just a year as she requested. And a $5000 car will be just fine.
When I posted the question, I am open minded So your point is well taken. We will consider all responses, this is just like a mini poll, but it will be a weighted poll.
Just have a question here, what's your suggestion for insurance? It could be comparable to car value.
In most states she only needs liability. I think in every state. If she wants collision, let her pay for it on her own.
If you decide to take my suggestion, tell her that is is for ONE YEAR, and one year only.
Then you will reassess with her, what her options are. This might work if you really back off. No nagging at all.
If it makes you feel any better, many students today do not finish college in four years. In fact, off hand I think that at least 50% do not, depending upon the college.
She is still in the approximately 30% of Americans with a four year college degree, so you do have reason to be proud of her.
In this mini poll, your opinion is more dominant. I will certainly take serious consideration. But so far I have yet to confirm she does get her degree after finishing last course last week in the degree audit.
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Originally Posted by sheena12
In most states she only needs liability. I think in every state. If she wants collision, let her pay for it on her own.
If you decide to take my suggestion, tell her that is is for ONE YEAR, and one year only.
Then you will reassess with her, what her options are. This might work if you really back off. No nagging at all.
If it makes you feel any better, many students today do not finish college in four years. In fact, off hand I think that at least 50% do not, depending upon the college.
She is still in the approximately 30% of Americans with a four year college degree, so you do have reason to be proud of her.
She told us, that we do not need to care about her, other than giving her a car.
this sounds really entitled to me. "other than giving her a car". as if that's a mere afterthought. she should appreciate such a generous start to her working life. jeez
certainly, *if* you give her the car, put down some conditions as posters here have suggested. and consider that many students don't get cars just for graduating
she wants YOU to give her what she wants, yet then claims to essentially say to her own family, to leave her alone? and for a year?
i say kick her to the curb and let her realize how hard life is when mom and dad isn't there to help. i know i'm thankful for all my own have made, even if we argued a lot.
Your daughter is facing a tough economic climate. The extent to which you "should" help her with a car depends a lot on factors readers here can't possibly know about. But if you can afford to help her with a car-if it won't cause you hardship, it may help her get on her feet. She needs help with establishing some direction in her life. As someone else noted, if she went to a public college, taking 5 years is not unusual because it is often hard to get required courses when you need them-and that can hold students up. A discussion about how she can find some better direction in her life may be just what she needs-and you can pair that with expectations you have about the car and its use.
Yes, we try to put nice face again but with little teeth on it, we will offer a condition giving that she must commit her effort.
You're right in public college many students can't register some requested courses but she wasn't one of them as I implied in my open post. She is voluntarily skipping for another year.
Again I appreciate all of your commentings in this thread.
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Originally Posted by makeiteasy
Your daughter is facing a tough economic climate. The extent to which you "should" help her with a car depends a lot on factors readers here can't possibly know about. But if you can afford to help her with a car-if it won't cause you hardship, it may help her get on her feet. She needs help with establishing some direction in her life. As someone else noted, if she went to a public college, taking 5 years is not unusual because it is often hard to get required courses when you need them-and that can hold students up. A discussion about how she can find some better direction in her life may be just what she needs-and you can pair that with expectations you have about the car and its use.
I would buy her a old $2,000 car and when she wants better than she can work for it.
I wouldn't let her take a year off. Are you going to be paying for her to go out and put gas in the car. Never mind if she has a cell phone and car insurance can be pretty expensive.
She said she only asked a car, then she will take care by herself, but I even don't how she is going to pay the insurance since she isn't 25 years old yet.
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I would buy her a old $2,000 car and when she wants better than she can work for it.
I wouldn't let her take a year off. Are you going to be paying for her to go out and put gas in the car. Never mind if she has a cell phone and car insurance can be pretty expensive.
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So your point is well taken. We will consider all responses, this is just like a mini poll, but it will be a weighted poll. 
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