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I don't know, maybe you could give it to her, a cheap car like sheena suggested, and be absolutely vehement to not provide any assistance with her keeping it.
Having to pay the hundreds of dollars in car insurance, fuel, taxes, and repairs...that could definitely encourage more responsible behavior. It's what I had to start doing and it's why I actually got my first real job.
Our daughter finally graduated from the college, she could complete it in four years, but she dragged more than a year anyway. Much time in playing, her status dropped from upper 70ish at entry to lower 20ish at the end. Now she has repeatedly claimed that she doesn't know what to do, so she wants "to take one year off "! We promised her we would help her as much as possible as long as she is serious about finding a job at her field, or switch to different field seriously, just anything seriously, but she is not interested. Even she doesn't prepare her resume. She told us, that we do not need to care about her, other than giving her a car. She may just find a waitress work for making living for now. So what would you do in such situation? Please offer your opinion, thank you. By the way, we are an Asian American Family.
If she's not serious about finding a job cut her off. There's no excuse for that. And what does being Asian American have to do with this?
The road less traveled is often the most rewarding.
While I am a Caucasian female, once I graduated high school my parents cut off all support. All. I was super angry at the time--how am I going to get from point A to point B I asked? Well, it all worked out.
Now I have more street smarts than anyone I know. I can change a tire, my brakes, my oil in my car (and more) and kick the crap out of most men that dare invade my space. I know how to manage a bank account, put together the worst of the worst Ikea furniture, and fix nearly anything in my house. I know that bills come first, not a new pair of shoes or going to a salon. Heck, I don't even step into full retail stores anymore--why tempt myself? I am 100% confident I would not have learned these skills if my parents did otherwise.
Do what is right for your family, for your daughter. It is not my place to judge or tell you what to do. Just know, you may not be able to see "what is right" until later down the road--although, I'm not sure if that makes sense.
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