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My mom always talked about being buried standing up facing her beloved mountain. I was daunted by the task when faced with it... and didn't follow through, but I have to respect people who have the guts I didn't have to be this bold. I do have to wonder if he'd have actually worn that crown if he were alive. I wouldn't have predicted that.
No I'm saying I agree with you. People should never mourn when someone else dies (permanently, forever, final). It's weird that you'd want to grieve. They want you to BE HAPPY!!!! And dance!!! Whatever you do, do NOT acknowledge mortality in any serious way. Life is a party!
Actually to a certain extent I agree with this.
THe whole "celebration of life" thing, people that say "I want you to have a party when I'm dead," etc...seems a little crass.
But that's a broader complaint, about the insensitivity to the living. I was taught at a very young age, "we don't go to funerals for the dead, we go for the living" when we were going to the funeral of a father of family friends that died in his 40's for his widow and kids.
As to the venue...if that's where they want to hold it, who cares? Makes no difference if its at a funeral home or club in my mind.
THe whole "celebration of life" thing, people that say "I want you to have a party when I'm dead," etc...seems a little crass.
But that's a broader complaint, about the insensitivity to the living. I was taught at a very young age, "we don't go to funerals for the dead, we go for the living" when we were going to the funeral of a father of family friends that died in his 40's for his widow and kids.
As to the venue...if that's where they want to hold it, who cares? Makes no difference if its at a funeral home or club in my mind.
But we don't know if this example was an insensitivity to the living. After all, someone approached the nursing home about doing this. It's not like the funeral home director said "Hey, you know what would be fun? If I dressed this young man up and posed him in a nightclub!"
It's not how I would choose to do a wake. I'm almost 65, and I'm stuck in my ways, and I would want a more traditional expression of my passing. But...eh, to each their own.
One of my brother in laws lost his brother about a year ago. The poor man was single, and he died in his home, no one around him, and no one missed him for quite a few days, and it was my BIL was the one to find him, in his home, quite decomposed. It was awful. I won't describe. I'm sure you can imagine.
I thought it was quite a sad way to go. Death is sad anyway...but to be a puddle basically. How awful for his siblings, and his widowed mother. I can't help but think I'd choose being posed and presiding over dancing people, than dead and alone.
THe whole "celebration of life" thing, people that say "I want you to have a party when I'm dead," etc...seems a little crass.
But that's a broader complaint, about the insensitivity to the living. I was taught at a very young age, "we don't go to funerals for the dead, we go for the living" when we were going to the funeral of a father of family friends that died in his 40's for his widow and kids.
As to the venue...if that's where they want to hold it, who cares? Makes no difference if its at a funeral home or club in my mind.
I would absolutely want mine to be a party. Tell funny stories about me etc.
I think for some it's just their natural aversion to death and seeing dead bodies. They despise what they are not familiar with.
The crowd in this case is not disrespecting the corpse by any means. In fact they are celebrating how they see fit. If they were abusing the body in any way, sure, I wouldn't like it.
Reminds me of some of the Irish wake stories I heard from relatives. The body would never be left unattended, just in case the deceased did “wake.” During one wake, the men attending the body decided to go to a local bar for some drink. They couldn't leave the body unattended, so they took it with them and sat it in a chair.
04-05-2022, 05:22 PM
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I didn't know where to put this.
Apparently the deceased's wake was held at a club where his body was standing up surveying the event:
Ultimately, this is my position too. If something isn't harming me or others, I'm generally very much a live and let live guy.
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