Are these words used by Dallas natives? (living, shop)

[Cold As War]

Originally Posted by BstYet2Be

You really find those simple words of respect a turn-off? Seriously?

Definitely a good decision then, Sir.


You're most welcome!
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Jeez, not everyone grew up in the same region or environment. I feel uncomfortable when I hear those three words........as if I'm out of place

[BigDGeek]

Originally Posted by Cold As War

I use to live in Dallas about 17 years ago. I was in middle school Back then. I remember when I heard these words for the first time, it was new. I honestly find these words as a turn off for an area to live in. I don't think Dallas is right For me, doesn't mesh well. Thanks for the responses.

Originally Posted by Cold As War

Jeez, not everyone grew up in the same region or environment. I feel uncomfortable when I hear those three words........as if I'm out of place

I feel sorry for you that hearing such simple polite words makes you feel out of place. Despite using these words, DFW residents can be hardcore a-holes. I can't even imagine what kind of uncouth punks you're having to deal with.

[DitsyD]

Originally Posted by Cold As War

Jeez, not everyone grew up in the same region or environment. I feel uncomfortable when I hear those three words........as if I'm out of place

Jeez, not everyone is turned off by or uncomfortable in the presence of politeness and civility. Bless your heart.

[BeenThereDunThat]

Well if simple colloquial expressions either meant as genuine civility or subtle put-downs make you feel a place isn't for you, I'd say you're in for a tough row to hoe assimilation-wise.

FWIW...DFW has become quite diverse culturally-speaking however Texas is simply a whole different place compared to most states with some expressions common to particular geographic areas. But at the end of the day, it's all about a person's tolerance & temperament for adjusting to the world around them. While we all may prefer to be around more people like ourselves, it's the discovery of diversity that can really bring us enrichment if we choose to only stop and take a moment to understand it. My2Cents anyway.

I'm a former military brat and I learned long ago from base-to-base that you learn fast how to make friends or you get left on the bench when it comes time for kickball.

Good luck!

[Azure1]

Personally, I would hate to live where these were NOT commonly used. Best of luck to you!

[Johnhw2]

I hear those words more than I use them but then again Im old lol and hear Sir more than I use to. When visiting relatives in Tennessee, they addressed me by first and middle name even as a teen... .... lol Now that took some getting use to lol

[bamaintex]

Originally Posted by Johnhw2

I hear those words more than I use them but then again Im old lol and hear Sir more than I use to. When visiting relatives in Tennessee, they addressed me by first and middle name even as a teen... .... lol Now that took some getting use to lol

LOL...we only got the middle name used if we were in trouble! Although, I did grow up with several people who had double names.

[Gree Mountain]

We don't use "ma'am," "sir," or "ya'll" in my family, but we're not Dallas natives. When my kids were young they also called familiar adults (family friends or neighbors) by their first names. We must be terribly rude people...

It is interesting how these phrases play in different regions, however. On my block growing up in the Northeast we had one family that used the words "ma'am" and "sir." The rest of us thought they were quite strange. My mother always quipped that the father thought his house was a military base or a prison.

That said, I'm not offended when people in Dallas use those words.

[ShellNic]

Yes, I use those words everyday. I'm not native but having been here since 1981, I think I may have some Texan rights. (at least I hope so)

The one that took some getting used to was "fixin' ta"...my parents hated that term but it was so common it was hard not to say it. I don't really use fixin to very much but it has slipped out. I personally love the southern accent...and I like noticing the differences between Texas, LA, MS, AL, GA, the Carolinas...well, hell, I really like listening to all of our accents across the US and abroad.

Right now, I'm watching The Wire and I love hearing the native Maryland actors...it's awesome that some regions you can just really tell where they're from...so that's what I apply to Texas, too. I make a lot of calls to government offices for work and yea, I could listen to their accents (thick and all) all day long. I'm weird that way, I guess. When I go to Seattle though (my home town), I still get made fun of for saying ya'll. Whatevs!!

[BigDGeek]

Originally Posted by ShellNic

Yes, I use those words everyday. I'm not native but having been here since 1981, I think I may have some Texan rights. (at least I hope so)

The one that took some getting used to was "fixin' ta"...my parents hated that term but it was so common it was hard not to say it. I don't really use fixin to very much but it has slipped out. I personally love the southern accent...and I like noticing the differences between Texas, LA, MS, AL, GA, the Carolinas...well, hell, I really like listening to all of our accents across the US and abroad.

Right now, I'm watching The Wire and I love hearing the native Maryland actors...it's awesome that some regions you can just really tell where they're from...so that's what I apply to Texas, too. I make a lot of calls to government offices for work and yea, I could listen to their accents (thick and all) all day long. I'm weird that way, I guess. When I go to Seattle though (my home town), I still get made fun of for saying ya'll. Whatevs!!

Even in my fairly insulated conservative Jewish family, we say "fixin' to". Some of my grandparents even adopted Texan words/sayings. Imagine hearing those in German, French, and Polish accents.

I'm only second-generation American, let alone Texan, but I say ma'am, sir, y'all, fixin' to, yunnerstan, yonder, reckon, etc.