Something someone on a forum said that really resonated with me: there are not just 2 types of diabetes- there are millions, because each diabetic is different.
What I ended up doing for my diet was to-
1. Track my blood sugars 5 times a day (before breakfast, before lunch, 2 hours after lunch, before dinner, and before bed). I have a log that I put it all in, religiously.
2. Focus on fats, meat, and veggies. My meals consist of veggies and meat and fat (usually mayo- yum). That's what works for me. I can't have ANY grain product, or any fruit other than 2-3 strawberries. I've been abusing my body for so long with crash diets and the rebound binges that I pretty much eat veggies in the morning and evening.
My typical day looks like this:
Breakfast: eggs, spinach, mayo, cheese. Microwaved into one little bowl of eggy goodness. Coffee, usually, made with SF coffee mate (about 2 table spoons), sometimes a packet of splenda (but not often)
Morning snack if hungry: 4 ounces cottage or 1 ounce cream cheese
Lunch: Slied turkey and cheese roll ups, a few pork rinds, and some times 2-3 strawberries
Afternoon snack: Beef jerky (1 individual stick), cream cheese, cottage cheese, or cheese stick (hey, I like cheese! It's the only dairy I can eat, besides butter).
Dinner: (99% of the time it's the same) Green beans, a 1/3 pound hamburger patty, slice of cheese, mayo. Sometimes a sugar free popsicle or a sugar free chocolate (the Russell Stover SF toffee squares are too good- they are no longer allowed in the house)
Bedtime: Cottage cheese (I really like the stuff!)
I drink water, crystal light, or diet dr. pepper. I am really sensitive to caffeine, so I have to stop it at noon. If I'm feeling rich or festive, I'll drink unsweetened almond milk or diet blueberry/pomegranate juice.
Things I used to love that just don't love me: ALL fruits, milk (I could easily drink 3 gallons a week myself), cereal (even the 'low-carb' kinds), breads. Before I was diagnosed as a diabetic, I was a vegetarian! A very strict one!
Now, I don't think everyone should eat like me. It's what works for me, keeps my sugars in a good place. I get really spacey and cranky if my sugars go above 150, so I have to keep tabs on things.
My best advice is to eat to your meter. Take your sugars before you eat, eat, take them 1 hour after, and then 2 hours after. In order to prevent complications (loss of limbs, blindness, dialysis), you want your sugars to be under 140.
I've lost 45 pounds since diagnosis without counting calories or carbs by eating to my meter.
Check out the website blood sugar 101- it is full of awesomeness for the newly diagnosed.
Many prayers and hugs for you. It really hard in the beginning, but, it gets better- or, easier to manage.