The life of being married to someone who is not fat

[convextech]

Originally Posted by conlainhothuong

I cant leave him because I dont want to be one of those reckless mothers who take their kids and leave empty handed. I have no family to fall back on (I have my mom but we dont have a super close relationship for me to move in). I want to save up some money on the side, but based on a thread I created its against "societal norms." Since his money is my money vice versa.

I'll say it again: your husband is a controlling mother****er, and you need to leave.

Stop with this crap about not wanting to be one of those reckless mothers. What's more reckless than having your children growing up seeing their mother treated this way, thinking that this is normal and that's it's ok? Because it is NOT.

Grow a backbone, get an attorney, move in with your mother anyway for awhile, and get away from that POS assclown.

[Inkpoe]

Originally Posted by conlainhothuong

Its so frustrating, I just want to do this for myself why do I have to spend my time proving things to him?

I cant leave him because I dont want to be one of those reckless mothers who take their kids and leave empty handed. I have no family to fall back on (I have my mom but we dont have a super close relationship for me to move in). I want to save up some money on the side, but based on a thread I created its against "societal norms." Since his money is my money vice versa.

You spend far too much time on what other people think that you're letting it hinder you. I don't agree that it's "societal norm" in regards to the money issue, everyone has their own setup, some are more common than others. The car issue, you've given him way too much power that DID leave you empty-handed-- it's bad enough that he had you sell all your cars, but he's the main driver of the family car, leaving you stuck and inconvenienced with kids at home. You've failed to see you've already set yourself up to be exactly one of those mothers you're freaking out about that you've allowed yourself to get stuck.

In response to his question about what you're going to wear... You know what? Go buy yourself some nice outfit and take yourself out on the anniversary date. You deserve a nice break and a good treat.

[Hedgehog_Mom]

If you really don't want to leave him, then going to counseling together might be a good idea.

[Meyerland]

Losing weight won't fix the issues in your marriage. He won't wake up to a thin wife and magically turn into a loving and kind person.

I'm sorry you are in this position OP. I would put myself in a position to leave. See a lawyer. Put your ducks in a row, so you can empower yourself. Then see if you really want to stay or go. Put yourself in a position of power vs. a position of desperation.