Best ways to help my sister to lose weight (calorie, vegan, water)
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Right now, several of the ladies I know are losing weight easily doing a low carb ketogenic diet. One of the young ladies is 24 and her weight blew up at around age 8, she was always the overweight child. She was up to 335 and has now lost nearly 40 pounds on this eating plan. She is not hungry, she's finding great things to eat by looking up recipes online. I'm very happy for her!
She was motivated because she saw so many of the other ladies losing weight.
You could share with your sister what others have done, not tell her to do it or that she needs to, but just plant the idea in her head. If she wants to learn more, she can get online and do lots of research.
How sweet of you to care about your sister's health and well being.
You don't have to actually say anything about her. Just say let's go to ABC or let's cook at home. Cook healthy stuff, or take her to a nicer restaurant where there are healthier options. Set a good example by ordering something more healthy and foregoing dessert.
If she questions, just say YOU are trying to eat healthier that you recently learned that sugar and highly refined carbs contribute to type 2 diabetes, and sugar causes cavities, etc. etc. etc. You don't have to say anything at all about her weight or body size.
You can't make anyone do anything. If she wants your help, she will ask. If she doesn't ask, leave it alone. Believe me, her peers are already making her life a living hell. She knows she is fat. You don't have to tell her!
Do you think a 15 yr old like to have an overweight body?
The culture has changed rapidly over the last decade or so. Many teens are proud of and accept their bodies no matter what size. So to answer your question, yes, there are teen girls who are obese and are perfectly happy and have no intention on changing.
The culture has changed rapidly over the last decade or so. Many teens are proud of and accept their bodies no matter what size. So to answer your question, yes, there are teen girls who are obese and are perfectly happy and have no intention on changing.
And that thinking too, I guess, has helped pharma industry with all the diabetic drugs.
I have an adult good friend who is overweight and she's done EVERYTHING re: diets etc but she's a compulsive eater....some people you can talk to and some you can't. They will get defensive/angry and others can thank you too. But I'm talking older adults in my life.
You have to decide, set good examples for starters.
Have you really had people thank you for pointing out their weight problem, or other shortcomings? Truly?
I am really having trouble understanding what positive effect you think saying something to an overweight friend, any overweight friend, about their weight will have. Do you think people don't notice that they're overweight?
The best thing you can do is be a positive influence, be supportive and be a non-judgmental friend. I've never understood this. Just what do people expect an overweight person to do when someone mentions their weight? Do you think they're going to say, "oh wow, I didn't think anyone noticed. Thank you so much for telling me?" and be thankful?
If a friend of mine were to do this to me, I would be extremely hurt and would distance myself from this person immediately.
OP, in my opinion, just love her and set the best example that you can. Lead a healthy, balanced and active life yourself and share how happy you are and how good you feel. Insist on good quality, healthy food when you're around her and (as someone upthread suggested), ask her to join you on walks, hikes, bike rides or whatever.
Other than that, be positive, show her and tell her that you love her. Encourage her to talk to you. And I mean talk about her life, not her weight. Maybe she will eventually feel comfortable enough and supported enough to open up to you. I personally don't think confronting her and pointing out her weight problem is going to turn her around. All it is likely to do is hurt her very much, humiliate her and make her feel like there is no one she can trust. She KNOWS that she is overweight. Trust me.
Have you really had people thank you for pointing out their weight problem, or other shortcomings? Truly?
I am really having trouble understanding what positive effect you think saying something to an overweight friend, any overweight friend, about their weight will have. Do you think people don't notice that they're overweight?
The best thing you can do is be a positive influence, be supportive and be a non-judgmental friend. I've never understood this. Just what do people expect an overweight person to do when someone mentions their weight? Do you think they're going to say, "oh wow, I didn't think anyone noticed. Thank you so much for telling me?" and be thankful?
If a friend of mine were to do this to me, I would be extremely hurt and would distance myself from this person immediately.
I have known this friend 25 yrs and watch her gain weight, go thru many programs and I'll often talk about how I've cut out bread and lots of carbs etc etc etc ... but she's a grown woman and I can't give her any advice, she's done so much. I've never said anything about her weight issue. She brings it up and I'll listen and talk about how I could lose a few lbs and how I recently took off 30 lbs in rehab due to loss of appetitie due to meds....I've talked about my stopping alcohol, all types...she has not. What are you reading that you think I've said to her?
I have known this friend 25 yrs and watch her gain weight, go thru many programs and I'll often talk about how I've cut out bread and lots of carbs etc etc etc ... but she's a grown woman and I can't give her any advice, she's done so much. I've never said anything about her weight issue. She brings it up and I'll listen and talk about how I could lose a few lbs and how I recently took off 30 lbs in rehab due to loss of appetitie due to meds....I've talked about my stopping alcohol, all types...she has not. What are you reading that you think I've said to her?
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I have an adult good friend who is overweight and she's done EVERYTHING re: diets etc but she's a compulsive eater....some people you can talk to and some you can't. They will get defensive/angry and others can thank you too. But I'm talking older adults in my life.
You have to decide, set good examples for starters.
Which is why I qualified my post with:
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Have you really had people thank you for pointing out their weight problem, or other shortcomings? Truly?
I am really having trouble understanding what positive effect you think saying something to an overweight friend, any overweight friend, about their weight will have. Do you think people don't notice that they're overweight?
Also, you are advocating for the OP to be confronting her sister about her weight. I have a different opinion. That's all.
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