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When I was about 6 I had the most adorable puppy named spunky. One day spunky disappeared. My mom told me he ran away. We searched all over the neighbourhood for this dog but I could not find him anywhere. I cried for days over this dog. You see before I had spunky I was terrified of dogs. Spunky helped me to get over that fear.
Anyways, I later found out that my mom had gotten rid of the dog because she was tired of taking care of it.
How could she have made us search all over for this puppy when she is the one who had gotten rid of it. By the way I never found out what happened to the puppy.
I know some of you are going to tell me to get over it but to this day I don`t have any pets and I am terrified of dogs again.
When did mom tell you this yrs later ? Maybe she thought if she told you years later you would not be so upset but yeah I would be cause that was cruel and heartless of your mom and what kind of mother does that to her kids ? not a great one I would say . Go get yourself another dog and try and get over your fear maybe you could start out with a small dog such as a toy breed and then go bigger later when you are over your fear .
#2 now that older and can take care of animal yourself, like another poster said volunteer at local shelter. Then get used to dogs and maybe adopt one that is been there a long time but not a small yappy dog and not a large dog. You can work with them in shelter and find one that grabs your heart, dog will help you over come your fears, dog will get a second chance and you will have a best friend as will love unconditionally and be so happy you saved the life.
oh that is so sad
my daughter found a stray kitten a few years ago and I saw it laying dead in the road a while later. I told her it must have ran off just to save her the heartache...but I couldn't imagine intentionally getting rid of a pet and telling my kids it ran away...I'd have so much guilt over that. I agree, volunteer in a local shelter
lisalan -- something similar happened to me when i was little. i lived in a very small town (think fewer than 400 people) and this dog was really one of my only companions.
she followed me everywhere; i did things like brush her curly hair with a curry comb (which is a tool meant for a horse) which hurt her, but i didn't know it, i thought i was taking care of her; and our family could see her sleeping under our house in whatever room i was in. i loved this dog very, very much... and one day she disappeared.
my family told me she died. i was devastated.
i found out later my grandfather didn't want to pay to feed her anymore so he took her off into the country and dropped her off to fend for herself.
so, no, i would not dream of telling you to get over it. i don't think i have ever gotten over it. but my case has made me love dogs more... in fact, i have a (soon-to-be, god and the fates willing) 14-year old shih tzu asleep right here on the couch beside me.
i love him more than i like most people.
i think it would be a shame to let what happened when you were little rob you of the companionship and love that comes with a dog. the other posters have a good idea about volunteering at a shelter, but you might find that overwhelming with so many dogs in one place.
if you have a friend who has a calm, quiet dog that you could spend time with, that might be a better place to start.
Is your mom around to talk to about it? Or maybe someone close to her that knew what really happened and why she did it? It might put you at ease a bit more to know some more facts about what happened.
I wouldn't suggest volunteering if you have a real fear of dogs. Start small, maybe watching videos about dogs on youtube for a while. Then gradually take bigger steps like spending time in a controlled environment with one small dog (a friend or neighbors dog, etc). Then try spending time with bigger dogs and then around multiple dogs. Only after you are completely comfortable around dogs should you even contemplate getting one as a pet. Actually, you say you don't have any pets, so maybe start with something less intimidating like a fish or small animal. If you are having real issues with getting past what your mom did and/or a fear of dogs, seek out the help of a professional counselor.
Thanks for all your understanding. I must say I love the people on the dog forum. They are so much more understandimg and non-judgmental as compared to the parenting forum.
Thanks again! I knew you dog lovers would understand
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#1 mom did wrong
