Female dog with huge fear of new male owner (how much, clean, toy)
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so, of all the inexpensive short-haired young spayed female dogs in the world, you brought home a dog that was afraid of you the first time you met it?
i'm still not really understanding the logic behind choosing this particular pooch for a new pet.
Who cares. The dog is now his pet. Stop focusing the past. It's not helpful. The OP is making progress.
The dog is better off. It needed to learn to be around men. A dog can't live in a man-free bubble.
We have had Shiraz since mid-October and have made gradual progress in most areas. Her panic peeing is much better and mostly avoidable. She is great running to the door at bathroom time and tends to wait for me before she goes on command. Funny. She is less nervous when we are in the run together and although she won't come to me she does respond to many of my commands. She responds to my petting her and comes in to nap on the bed with me.
We had a leading dog trainer come in for a visit in December and after 15 minutes he theorized that she came out of the womb like she is. When I told him I would be leaving New England in early February for our house down South he recommended she go with me and her half brother. So the three of us leave Wednesday for 3 months. She is doing well in dry runs in the car(she was said to be prone to motion sickness). I suspect we will get around the corner quickly with long walks and the absence of a female.
And for all you smarty pants who gave me advice well..... apparently you are because the trainer echoed most of the suggestions you gave me. So thanks again.
Wonderful news!!! (yea! )
If you still have concerns about motion sickness, Dramamine will work, the dose is by weight, just like kids. You can call the vet before you leave and ask what dose would be right for her? You can pick up Dramamine at any drug store or pharmacy.
You most likely know this (but in case you don't) don't feed her before driving in the morning, feed her once you have stopped for the evening. Take corners and curves as gently as possible. Smooth roads are best but not something you have much control over.
Most dogs grow out of motion sickness and hopefully your pup has, too.
I would get the dogs out every could of hours for a potty break and offer them water. This is not only good for them but you, too. (Sitting in one position for more than two - three hours can or may cause bloods clots to form in the lower legs.)
speaking as a person that adopts older rescue cats i can say these things do take time - you really must be patient - yes you need to be the one feeding her etc -
i adopted a 4 1/2 year old cat that had two previous owners before i came along - she has gotten over some issues but there are two remaining issues - she still flinches when i go to pet her head and she can not be in a carrier for any length of time - she actually shredded her first carrier as we were driving from florida (where I adopted her) back to connecticut - so patience is needed and lots of TLC and maybe a little bit of accomodating to their emtional scars - good luck
tguru, THANK YOU for your patience and fortitude with this little girl - and many happy days to come! I also had a fearful one - afraid of men, loud noises, children (which I suppose equates to loud noises), storms, sudden movements, cars, doors...yes, doors...she was just afraid of everything. She was a rescue at about 3 years old and lived to be almost 10. Never did conquer a lot of her fears, wasn't able to approach my very mild-mannered, quiet husband for attention without cowering for about 3-4 years. Her history was quite a bit different in that she had been a puppy mill dog and we had no idea why anything was a trigger. She was dumped, so possibly she was born fearful as well (I doubt it - law of averages tells me otherwise). It was a very slow, very steady work in progress until the day she passed, but we miss her every single day. She cried at some of her triggers until the day she left us, but I can truly tell you she was a heart dog for my family.
Again - you are doing so much good, you've taken the right steps to promote that wonderful bond between you and your new best friend. Kudos and congrats to you for seeing your rehab project through even when she wasn't the "perfect" adoption! She's a very, very lucky little girl and I wish you much happiness and joy.
tguru, THANK YOU for your patience and fortitude with this little girl - and many happy days to come! I also had a fearful one - afraid of men, loud noises, children (which I suppose equates to loud noises), storms, sudden movements, cars, doors...yes, doors...she was just afraid of everything. She was a rescue at about 3 years old and lived to be almost 10. Never did conquer a lot of her fears, wasn't able to approach my very mild-mannered, quiet husband for attention without cowering for about 3-4 years. Her history was quite a bit different in that she had been a puppy mill dog and we had no idea why anything was a trigger. She was dumped, so possibly she was born fearful as well (I doubt it - law of averages tells me otherwise). It was a very slow, very steady work in progress until the day she passed, but we miss her every single day. She cried at some of her triggers until the day she left us, but I can truly tell you she was a heart dog for my family.
Again - you are doing so much good, you've taken the right steps to promote that wonderful bond between you and your new best friend. Kudos and congrats to you for seeing your rehab project through even when she wasn't the "perfect" adoption! She's a very, very lucky little girl and I wish you much happiness and joy.
I agree. OP how is she doing?
I adopted a dog with (we found later) fear issues, the vet said her previous owner prolly hit her, with a brush or broom. Some people are sick.
Kimora is good now, 5 years later. It took alot of patience and being gentle, but shes almost back to normal.
2 months ago we left for SC. They get Bonine before we leave. We do 420miles and stopover at Red Roof in Richmond(why don't people pick-up after their dogs when they stay at Red Roof?? I mean isn't Red Roof nice to permit pets?). No problems on the drive, no problems at the motel. For the first time she goes to the bathroom on leash for me!! Do the last 360miles and get in Thursday afternoon. No problems.
The dogs will stay in the glassed in porch when necessary and have access to the kitchen and a bedroom when I am in the house. Friday she panics, gets into the barricaded living room and pees twice on the carpet, once on the sofa, and poops on the sofa for good measure. We don't have a dog run here(yet) so they go out in the yard on a choke. So every day I have to go get her and put the leash on her(like the early days up North). Monday, as I put the leash on her brother in the laundry room I hear a pitter-patter behind me as she slinks in to await the leash!!
We take a 1 mile walk in harness every day around a "Loop" after morning eats. For the first week her tail is between her legs or down. Slowly that changes and she becomes like any other Beagle. Not fearful of cars, meeting an occasional dog, going to the bathroom, sniffing all the way, tail stiffly up. I think this is better for Beagles than the run. It's like Rhinestone hunting. To be continued..................
I'm glad she's doing better. I hope that's a typo that they go out on a choke. You just mean on a chain, right? You can't tie a dog out on a choke collar. I'm sure you realize that. Beagles love their walks. It would be good to get a run put in too though, just for running around and playing.
Shiraz was very nervous about entry/exit into the house early on but has slowly improved. In the beginning she often peed when the choke went on. I forgot to mention she also learned to come to me to have the harness put on (which is a bigger deal). Now she doesn't pee at all for this process.
It wasn't long before she would curl up under my arm at bedtime. In the morning she will stand with her front legs on my chest and then do some stretching exercises with a little nose to nose action or lay on her back for a belly rub. So we do a lot of quality time in that setting.
Three times during this period male friends have come over when I had the dogs in the yard on leash. Every time she would eventually go over to the man to sniff. When I am out working in the yard she can see me and acts like she has a mild case of separation anxiety. In the house with me she withdraws to the safety of porch or bedroom. She will come to me within the parameter of the furniture. She still is reluctant or nervous to come into the kitchen for her dinner. To be continued.........
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