dog owners and their assumptions (skin, diet, kennel, children)
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Why do some/many dog owners presume if you don't have a dog, it is their responsibility to convince you otherwise and find one for you ?
Could be because their dogs make them happy, and they want you to feel that same type of happiness. Or perhaps they are just incredibly controlling people who need to force other people to think like them.
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I have had dogs in the past ( great ones and some not so great ) and no longer want to be a dog owner in my retirement years.
Tell them that. Could it be your friends think, because you are retired you are lonely or need something to do? Let them know that you are quite happy in your retirement.
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Also, why do some/many dog owners presume that it is ok to bring their dog with them when they come to visit and allow it to run free in my house ?
Yes, that is incredibly rude assumptive behavior, if the dog has not been invited. Be upfront and tell your friends with dogs that you don't want their dogs at your home.
Sounds like you need some new friends! Or at least, you need to set up some boundaries with your current ones.
i as a dog owner love my dogs and couldnt live without them,however i only tell people to "get a dog" if there already thinking about it and ASK my opinion....
as for the dogs comming to your house...
its your house, make it clear that their dogs arnt welcome and if they must bring the dog it must remain on leash. i take my dogs wherever i can, however i ask first and would never take them to a frineds home unless i knew for sure they were welcome...
i get a feeling youve never actually been upfornt and told these guests you do not want thier dogs in your home...in which case how would they know it bothers you?
My parents' longtime dog was put down this winter at the end of a long life. They have been married 40 years, and have spent virtually none of them dogless. However, they now have four children who all live between 1-500 miles away, and three grandchildren...they spend a lot of time travelling to visit their kids and grandkids, and have decided they are past the stage of life where they need to arrange for a dog's needs to be met while they are gone. So, they have said, "No dogs, it doesn't fit our lifestyle anymore." This didn't stop my brother from trying to hook them up with one, but the rest of us were able to talk him down. My SO's dad is "surprising" his retired parents with a dog within the next week or two. These people are retired snowbirds, spend their year split between upstate NY and FL, and have never evidenced a desire for a dog.
I don't know what is wrong with people.
When we travel, if it is not to my parents' house or my SO's mom's house, we kennel our dog...because we have preapproved that it's okay with the two listed hosts if we bring our dog...and his crate. I never show up for a local visit with somebody with dog in tow. Also, nobody has ever brought their dog to our house.
Why do some/many dog owners presume if you don't have a dog, it is their responsibility to convince you otherwise and find one for you ?
They may be telling you that the bars and match.com ain't working for you so this may be your last chance for love.
I think they suffer from a bad case of loss of self identity and think that everyone needs to be like them to be happy. Just accept it as a kind guesture in their minds.
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Originally Posted by redwolf fan
Also, why do some/many dog owners presume that it is ok to bring their dog with them when they come to visit and allow it to run free in my house ?
Maybe cause you didn't stop them. It's your house so how can someones pet take over unless you let them. You just need to tell them its no alright.
redwolf fan....I'm thinking these people really mean well....some animal lovers just can't imagine being without one.....I'm sure (like the foxywench wrote) if you tell these people that you're really not comfortable with their dog in your house, or off its leash, whatever.... they'll respect that...I imagine their presumption is based on the fact that it's just hard for some of them to see their pets as anything other than their children.
I always feel if someone really wants a dog they will find it themselves. I talk to people that are interested in a dog to help them make the right choice. I would never push someone to get a dog. Many feel I am trying to talk others out of dog ownership. Not at all, just want to make sure they are ready for the large responsibility pets entail. Are they willing to groom, exercise, vet, train, be a best friend, and above all else be there when they are needed most. Like wedding vows, in sickness and in health.
Many people feel a friends life is incomplete without a pet. I've had pets all my life and sometimes envy my petless friends freedom.But never enough to be pet free myself. The choice should always be yours. Just smile when they suggest you get a dog, and tell them you've had your share.
Why do some/many dog owners presume if you don't have a dog, it is their responsibility to convince you otherwise and find one for you ?
I have had dogs in the past ( great ones and some not so great ) and no longer want to be a dog owner in my retirement years.
Also, why do some/many dog owners presume that it is ok to bring their dog with them when they come to visit and allow it to run free in my house ?
My first thought after reading your post was more of a surprise that someone would come to visit...or that they were trying to cheer you up....perhaps increasing the fiber in your diet would make you more agreeable
OK...I am kidding....Like the others have written, I would be surprised that after you make your wishes known, someone would bring their pet to your house. But not half as surprised as they would be that if they did, you said they could sleep out back with the dog or at a hotel that accepts pets.
I'm sure they mean will. Just tell them you aren't interested...what's the big deal?
It's incredibly rude to bring a dog to someone else's house without asking permission. I would definitely let visitors know it isn't okay to bring Fido over.
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Or at least, you need to set up some boundaries with your current ones.
You just need to tell them its no alright.
