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Originally Posted by ATLater
See the problem with the kind of parenting you're suggesting is that you will actually have to have a relationship with your kids...you actually have to talk to them and make sure they are mature enough to understand and handle the freedoms that you are giving them...all kid develop at different speeds...some 12 years olds are more socially aware then 16 year olds...but in order for you to know how much freedom your child can handle you have to have a relationship with them...parents today don't want to talk to their kids, answer questions, teach them things....they just want to believe if they keep their kids away from rap music, internet porn and violent video games then they've done their job as parents.
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Yeah I guess you're right - me and my mom had a very good relationship so I guess that's why it worked. I remember in the 8th grade one of my friends mom came over furious because I had lent her a VC Andrews book. She said she didn't allow her daughter to read such filth. I thought that was funny considering her daughter was the first among our clique to lose her virginity - didn't tell her mom that though.
I'm not saying I'm going to place pornos in my DVD case or start blasting rap music but I think it's about a balance. You can't protect your kids from the outside world; so IMO it's best to educate them in your own home and let them form opinions on their own rather than adopt those of their friends because they don't know any better.