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Of course he's going to ignore a letter from a member's wife, that letter wouldn't be effective.
So it sounds like from your post nothing can or will be done. Guess there's nothing more to really say on this matter. All angles have been talked about.
Correct. The advice that I’ve received in this thread is most appreciated. I think that directly telling him to stop, as I’ve done, is the way to go. I’ll keep doing it.
Correct. The advice that I’ve received in this thread is most appreciated. I think that directly telling him to stop, as I’ve done, is the way to go. I’ll keep doing it.
And that's fine--you don't even have to be rude about it. Just say, "Morning, Eddie, I can't talk while I'm working out," and go back to what you were doing.
Could I ask how you’d handle this?...Would you just keep ignoring him, as eventually he’ll go away?
Would you tell him, “Leave me alone!”?
Would you ask his boss (the club’s general manager) to tell him not to interrupt people who are in the middle of workouts or listening to music?
Would you ask him and his boss for a meeting to discuss why I’m not allowed to work out, and ask for a refund of gym dues?
I’m thinking that I should keep ignoring him. It seems rude but that is better than telling him to leave me alone, I think. But ignoring him means that he’ll come within inches of my face when I’m running on the treadmill, waving his hands and talking at me, which is really disturbing.
Thanks.
If you feel threatened, make a formal complaint. If not: Stop your workout. Look him in the eyes, smile, and tell him politely that you come to the gym to workout and would prefer that he leave you to it, uninterrupted. No explanation should be necessary, but if you want to soften it just tell him you need to completely concentrate on the workout to attain your goals.
IF he persists, then do this again, with the added information that this is your second request, and if he persists you will have to make a formal complaint.
If he in anyway thereafter treats you with any attitude less than respectful, make that formal complaint.
Another member’s wife wrote a letter directly to the manager. He must have received it by now and if so he is clearly ignoring people’s requests to stop interrupting their workouts.
This thread has shown that the manager may be autistic. If not, he clearly has some mental issue. Employers can be wary of demoting or disciplining someone whose behavior is due to a mental or other health condition; they often try to accommodate the employee. I just figure that the only result of a letter to management would be that I’d then have to face an angry gym manager in the morning. He’s not going to stop interrupting people and there would be nobody to stop him from coming at me in the gym.
Sound a bit like HS drama - mama sends a letter to the principal that her son is being bulllied
Stand up, put up or get out. Any other viable options?
This is quite an interesting situation at the gym.
A chatty gym manager who talks to everyone. I knew someone like that at work. He just circled the room wherever: office, starbucks, gym and chatted with everyone.
He ended up moving overseas so that's not an option here.
Anyway, maybe if you come off as unstable, needy, or a guy with non-stop phobias (ala Adrian Monk) he'll leave you alone. He used to cringe when someone would call him non-stop. I said well, you opened the door by initiating the conversation.
This is quite an interesting situation at the gym.
A chatty gym manager who talks to everyone. I knew someone like that at work. He just circled the room wherever: office, starbucks, gym and chatted with everyone.
He ended up moving overseas so that's not an option here.
Anyway, maybe if you come off as unstable, needy, or a guy with non-stop phobias (ala Adrian Monk) he'll leave you alone. He used to cringe when someone would call him non-stop. I said well, you opened the door by initiating the conversation.
Thanks. Sounds like the gym manager.
He won’t leave me alone, so I guess there’s some upside to that (I don’t come across that way, I guess).
Unfortunately you may have to take a side with something polarizing that most of the public is against to make him think twice.
- politics, tell him you're listening to death metal, gangster rap, you watched a serial killer show over and over again, you made a big bet on dog fighting.
This sounds so much like a plot from a Seinfeld episode. What would Jerry or Elaine do in this situation. lol
I am a member of a gym that is part of a private club (like a country club or the like). It’s a nice place and there are very strict rules about members’ behavior, including no rude treatment of staff.
I work out in the mornings. I like to go to the gym then. I cannot go later in the day. I wear headphones or earphones when I work out, and I listen to music. I really don’t like being interrupted.
However, the gym manager won’t leave me alone. Every morning at the gym, he’ll come up and start talking at me about random topics, such as work or current events. He does this when I’m working out. For example, I’ll be running on the treadmill, listening to music, and he’ll interrupt. I’ll be in the middle of a set of lifting free weights, and he’ll interrupt. When I ignore him, he’ll come within inches of me, waving his hands within inches of my face (which I ignore until he goes away). Or when I’m running, he’ll stand there and talk at me.
Would you just keep ignoring him, as eventually he’ll go away?
Would you tell him, “Leave me alone!”?
Would you ask his boss (the club’s general manager) to tell him not to interrupt people who are in the middle of workouts or listening to music?
Would you ask him and his boss for a meeting to discuss why I’m not allowed to work out, and ask for a refund of gym dues?
I’m thinking that I should keep ignoring him. It seems rude but that is better than telling him to leave me alone, I think. But ignoring him means that he’ll come within inches of my face when I’m running on the treadmill, waving his hands and talking at me, which is really disturbing.
Thanks.
Oh HELL NO! This mgr sounds like a stalker. I'm NOT kidding. Go up the chain of command. If that doesn't work, then punch the guy in the throat. (We hate that.) If he invades your personal space ever again.
Seriously, he sounds like he's trying to groom you. Beware.
EDIT~ I didn't bother reading the 136 posts between your first post, and this one. Did I miss anything?
Yet again, I was listening to music on wired earphones, and working out, and the gym manager came up and started talking at me. I tapped the earphones, smiled, said, “I’m working out”, and walked away. He kept on talking for a bit.
I saw him jump on treadmills next to people who were running, and he’d talk at them.
He either doesn't understand or does and enjoys bothering people. Either way you are the only person you can change.
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