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The way the OP described this person, I picture a very rare type of beauty combined with style and poise. The percentage of people who fall into that category is very very small.
Why is that? In this broad-minded age of plenty it can hardly be because human beings are as a rule decrepit.
This type of beauty is either naive or well-cultivated. If you look at the most cultivated beauties of all, models, the preference away from classic proportions of the face into quirky proportions is evident everywhere.
Opportunities for beauty have never been more widely available.
Who would have judged the woman on the bus as vain and thus worthy of contempt without even speaking to her? The envious? What a strange reaction. A smile, or a 'great boot' will do.
Neither naifs nor the cultivated are vain; vanity isn't beautiful.
The woman I described was one in a thousand, totally unique or else I would not be talking about her. She was not pretty or cute, but just incredibly beautiful and she knew it.
Everyone can talk about inner beauty and miserable lives of some pretty girls but I just think that our society has to provide rewards to women like this just because of human nature. I would like to be her for just a few weeks just to see how she lives and how people react to her.
The OP described a woman who couldn't even ride the subway without intense collective scrutiny.
Scrutiny??? Maybe they were just appreciating her beauty. You've never seen someone that just had a unavoidable presence when entering or being in a room?
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Originally Posted by SusqueHappy
Maybe she wanted to be noticed, or maybe she has good bones, or maybe she has high standards for personal style, and money and taste to express it all, who knows. The point is that it is NOT a pleasant experience to have lecherous bizarre behavior foisted upon oneself in ways that I simply don't see happening to most other people. To buy a coat or a car without being propositioned like a prostitute. To be hired for more than your pretty face (men included, of course).
There are wonderful ways to give compliments, such as these I've received:
~ "You have a lovely smile, thanks for sharing it with us" from a man whose dog I petted at an intersection
~ "What a fabulous jacket you've chosen, that color looks amazing on you"
~ And my favorite so far "Ah what a pity; I see you are married. Please convey my compliments to your husband"
Why people act in other (to me, rude) ways, I don't know.
But the things you're describing happen to regular, average looking folks from "bizarre behavior" to the compliments you received.
I know exactly what the OP is describing. I've only seen 2 women in my life who fit his description. They weren't being harassed by strangers or even complimented for that matter, but people (both men and women) couldn't help themselves from admiring those women.
Why is that? In this broad-minded age of plenty it can hardly be because human beings are as a rule decrepit.
This type of beauty is either naive or well-cultivated. If you look at the most cultivated beauties of all, models, the preference away from classic proportions of the face into quirky proportions is evident everywhere.
Opportunities for beauty have never been more widely available.
Who would have judged the woman on the bus as vain and thus worthy of contempt without even speaking to her? The envious? What a strange reaction. A smile, or a 'great boot' will do.
Neither naifs nor the cultivated are vain; vanity isn't beautiful.
Why is that? Because if a large percentage of the population were THAT beautiful, it wouldn't be special. It would be average. The OP is talking about a rare type of beauty.
I don't necessarily think the woman on the bus was vain. I think there are some posters here who are.
I got my share of attention when I was younger. I don't for a second think I fall into the category the OP is talking about.
Anyway - when I see beautiful women we usually smile at each other a knowing sort of sad "cheer up, be careful" sort of smile. Because it is a dangerous world out there for beautiful people.
Is this serious? LMAO!
Being born beautiful is like being born into money. It's not a curse or a hardship. There are studies after studies showing beautiful people, more specifically women, are treated differently (read:better) from the time they are young children and it continues through adulthood.
To the OP, I know what you are talking about. I was stuck behind a beauty, headturner in Manhattan once. Walked behind her for a good 15 blocks and just about every single man and woman looked at her. Men more so. Like actually looked behind them as she was passing. I thought sigh.....must be nice.
I say if people are always looking at you, you are probably good looking.
But for women, if men are constantly hitting on you, complementing your boobs, coming up to your table when your husband is in the bathroom.......now this is just me..... but I'd be afraid I was looking a little trashy and easy. For guys to constantly be extremely forward with you and feel comfortable grabbing you and telling you that you're hot, that's not good.
The true beauties get stares. The hooches attract the perves in droves. If men are constantly hitting on you and being forward, I'd take another look at how you are dressing.
This isn't directed toward any poster here, just in general. JMO.
This thread is too much - if every person here had answered with personal experiences of their own if they felt that they were either absolutely beautiful (or at least had been for a generous number of years) or had known someone who had... Well that might be both useful and on topic.
Instead the few people who actually answer the post are attacked based on pure speculation!
How vain it would be for me to describe how I'm stared at everywhere I go (which I mentioned months ago in another post), no matter how modestly I'm dressed, and have been for years? Another poster was even accosted while pregnant - flirtatious and dressed like a harlot, I'm sure [NOT]
Does this thread answer your question, OP?!
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Maybe they were just appreciating her beauty. You've never seen someone that just had a unavoidable presence when entering or being in a room? 
